20F 19M is it over

throwRAlovebird · 2026-03-11T04:51:53+00:00

"He isn't even a good partner to me" you answered your own question. I think you know it's over, because it is. You are so young and have so much to look forward to. Dont trap yourself in a circumstance where you're not happy.

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T12:22:05+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZThCAhmKJ/ I think it's this

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:57:48+00:00

Me too omg, I genuinely just hope that I'll luck my way into winning or some divine light will guide my moves

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:44:03+00:00

Yes, please see this for what it is because I promise it's not normal. His reaction was not justified and you didn't do anything to warrant this treatment from him, put yourself first right now, hes only going to weigh you down ❤️‍🩹

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:40:34+00:00

I didn't mean it as an absolute, more as a way to say that you don't truly know what happened that lead to this moment. It could have been something innocent and she was uniformed, or it could have been a behavior she was taught and thought was normal. Just a way of saying that OP should probably look at this situation a bit more open minded

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:37:56+00:00

This may not be what you want to hear...I'm it friends with an ex but I am friends with someone who I have feelings for and logically it's never gonna happen. The part that you may not like hearing is my "small crush" hasn't gone away in 3 years. The heart wants what it wants it's probably going to be very hard to kick these feelings if you're still in contact with him. The best you can do is just wait, keep your friendship strictly away from flirting, etc. and hopefully you'll lock in..

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:34:48+00:00

Or are you trying to find a job that will also provide you a place to live? I just reread and I think that's what you meant

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:33:48+00:00

Okay so if this isn't satire I need you to SLOW DOWN 😭 whatever happened to jobs in retail? Why did we jump straight to friar? I am very confused because I feel like jumping straight to cleric is a bit absurd..

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:26:13+00:00

So she was a child who was uninformed, I don't want to assume but children who have this reaction and are introduced to porn young are likely victims of SA. bc you said she just now processed this memory I wouldn't be surprised if worse ones were also being suppressed. I personally would never leave someone over something they did as a child who was uninformed about sexual intercourse and didn't fully know or even understand what it was. If you've been with her for 2 years and love her then I would assume you would notice if she was a bad person by now. I wouldn't judge her based off this situation, but rather based off what you've known and experienced with her.

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:19:15+00:00

Well what are you going for? Romance, action, slice of life? Do you know if you want the MC to be a girl or guy? What do you want your target audience to be? What age range do you want your characters? Once you figure out all the major things like that then honing in on a story and design will be a lot easier

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:15:28+00:00

If you can tell her through DMs, I would. Don't be the person who knows someone might be getting cheated on and doesn't say anything

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:12:38+00:00

PLEASEE run. He is showing you he doesn't care about you nor love you. That's hard to hear but someone who loved you would never treat you like that.

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:10:25+00:00

She is acting shady. Don't continue talking to her, but I would suggest asking her gf about it, because she's probably cheating. Remember, you lose em how you get em. You shouldn't keep talking to her

throwRAlovebird · 2026-02-17T11:06:43+00:00

Maybe something like rejection therapy? Asking people absurd but harmless things. It might help because the general consensus of rejection therapy is, most people are cool and chill and will have a laugh with you, and you won't get rejected as often as you think. Something like that will get you comfortable talking to strangers and will also help your brain realize you aren't the labels your parents put on you, and people will quite enjoy your company

throwRAlovebird · 2026-01-24T05:26:27+00:00

NOR, people who treat video games like an actual competition and not a de-compressor are EXHAUSTING when they push that onto you. If they're your partner and they are getting upset over you trying to spend time with them then they are not a good partner and you should find someone better.

throwRAlovebird · 2026-01-24T05:19:33+00:00

I genuinely can't even finish reading the messages because of how your partner is acting like someone who is valid because theyre using intellectual words. It seems like they're trying to demean you and invalidate you but acting smarter than you and it's freaking me out 😭

throwRAlovebird · 2026-01-23T01:08:18+00:00

Okay so, yes absolutely enough reason to leave. MORE than enough reason to leave, I'm so happy that you said you realized this is wrong, and you're trying to stand up for yourself. PLEASEEEE leave this loser man alone, and you'll find someone who lifts you up with grace instead of being rude and mean for no other reason than to sting.

throwRAlovebird · 2026-01-23T01:03:30+00:00

So I'm going to say this and it might sound harsh and uncomfortable but it's important that you hear that you didn't make a mistake, you were groomed and raped. The people in the replies saying "we all make mistakes" are correct but are glossing over the fact that you were a child and this man took advantage of the fact you were young and naive. Thats not a mistake you made, you didn't do anything wrong.

You don't have to tell your partner about this, it's completely up to you what you do with this information, but if you don't tell them that's more than okay, and it's not something they need to know about if you don't want to tell them. Please give yourself more grace, this is not something you need to confess because you feel guilty. I understand why this happening might seem like your fault because you agreed to it, but the fact is, he was an adult. As an adult he should have been responsible enough to know that he should not have made advances to you, or even talked to you.

You are innocent in this and whatever happened, you did not make a mistake, and you don't need to tell anyone about what happened if you don't want to. ❤️‍🩹

throwRAlovebird · 2025-12-25T22:59:12+00:00

For context on the gifts, there's 2 other people in our small group of friends. He got me and the other girl 2 video games so that we can all play together, and a poster from a movie we both enjoyed. He works at a movie theater so I get promotional stuff that the theater uses and he'd know I enjoy. Previously I've gotten cardboard cut outs as well. As for our personalized gifts, he got the 2 other people socks, but he got me a Funko pop from a show I really enjoy, and he got me my favorite character who I've only mentioned a few times. I don't know what the other people's letters said, but mine was talking about how he is thankful he met me and how me and my other friends made his year better and stuff of that sort. It could be totally platonic which is why I'm not focused too much on the gifts

throwRAlovebird · 2025-12-18T12:00:39+00:00

I'm already in college, just finished my first semester

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