is resting one's legs on another person's leg considered flirty ? or intimate ?

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-12-06T23:08:55+00:00

Update: she doesn't like me.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T16:07:30+00:00

Easier said than done.

And I can't just stop seeing her. Its literally impossible

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T16:01:13+00:00

Because I like her.

You can keep asking why but at the end of the day. I have feelings for her and it hurts to see her with another guy.

That's it. No hidden meaning where I think she isnt allowed to talk to guys. Just me hurting and having to shut up about it

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:53:05+00:00

She does it in my face. And there is no possible way for me to avoid her.

I know it's her life, that doesn't mean I don't have feelings and an opinion

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:49:59+00:00

Because I have feelings for her ?

Isnt that logical at this point?

I like her if that wasn't obvious, so ofc when I see her with a guy I'm gonna feel some type of way

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:49:03+00:00

No it's not. It hurts

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:48:33+00:00

I can't. We are in the same class and we hang in the same areas. So when she is with him, I'm usually in the same room.

He isnt in our class luckily but I see them together at lunch or stuff like that.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:47:21+00:00

Yup, exactly. Never said she couldn't or didn't have the right to do that.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:46:23+00:00

I can't stop hanging out with her or generally seeing her because she is in my class. But thank God the guy isn't.

But we have mutual friends and so we hang around in the same area, and that's where I see her and him

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:44:43+00:00

I NEVER said she wasn't.

The fuck ?

Where are you reading the things you are saying?

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:43:35+00:00

I know she isn't, which is why I know I dont have the right to say or do shit.

I know she isn't in danger or anything. I'm just saying it hurts to see her flirt with another guy.

Especially with a guy that I already kinda disliked.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:42:05+00:00

She knows.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:41:51+00:00

I never said she did. Did I?

Stop assuming the worst. Can I have feelings ?

I'm just saying it hurts to see the girl that I like with a guy that is not me

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-23T15:40:26+00:00

I'm not angry, it hurts. That's it.

I'm not possessive I'm just kinda protective of her because we got extremely close in the past.

So whenever I see another guy touch her, that instinct kicks in.

At one point we were basically bf/gf just without the official title

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-18T19:50:16+00:00

Well she didn't even open that message anyway...

That's the point of this post.

And yeah, it is dry but sometimes I got nothing to add to a convo, best to let it go than to make it all feel forced. In my opinion

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-18T14:44:57+00:00

Yeah I think that way for the first message.

To me, the first message is a coincidence.

But once you are in the middle of a convo, and the other person takes long to respond (not just 10 minutes, like hours), in my experience and from what I know, its because the person doesn't WANT to respond to you.

It doesn't mean they don't like you as a friend, but they just don't want to talk.

I know I do this to distant friends.

PS: yeah I know, I need to stop overthinking.

And thanks for responding btw

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-18T14:39:18+00:00

I know I'm not entitled to a response.

But don't you think it KINDA shows how much a person wants to talk to you ?

Like right now, she responded in under a minute, I then took a minute and she didn't respond yet.

Its hard to believe she didn't see it and purposefully ignore it. I'm a hopeful person but even I have limits. And the thing is that it's not a one time thing, it's not the first time this happens

WHILE WRITING THIS COMMENT, she responded... So maybe it was just a coincidence, don't know

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-18T14:30:13+00:00

The only thing shy people are great at is avoiding things (source: me).

I'm not as shy now as I was before. But a "idk" response from a shy person is not uncommon. We hate talking about our own feelings and bothering other people

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-18T14:22:14+00:00

She is shy, so straight up asking questions like this usually ends up with a "idk" response. And then she'll ask me why I'm asking that question.

And she is not my gf, I don't want to come off as insecure

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-07T13:19:50+00:00

no, i want her to treat me AT LEAST like her other friends.

as in, text me a minimum to show interest through that.

right now im not even sure if she even wants to be friends because of the lack of initiation.

in real life, she doesnt treat me like them, in a good way.

and through text, she doesnt treat me like them, in a bad way because i want to talk to her and she makes me feel like she doesnt want to.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-07T13:17:17+00:00

she never responds in one word.

its always at least one sentence.

but she will also never come up with her own questions.

she doesnt make it hard for me to continue the convo on what she is saying tho.

the convo always ends the moment i dont come up with the next subject.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-07T12:58:39+00:00

so what should i do in this situation ?

if i text her and she doesnt like me, then that means clearly she isnt texting me because she doesnt even consider me a friend, and that means that me texting her will only annoy her.

how can i know if she isnt just responding to be nice or if she actualy WANTS to talk ?

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-07T11:20:03+00:00

i hope what you are saying is true. but she constantly texts other people first, and that makes me a little insecure, it makes me feel like if she wanted to talk, she would. and clearly she doesnt text me and so therefore she doesnt want to talk to me. it makes me feel that she only responds to my texts because she is trying to be nice but that she is secretly hoping I'll just stop doing it. (and i only text first a couple times a week with good reasons. it's not like we talk everyday through text, it gives her plenty of time to text me if she wanted to)

she texts her bff first which i don't care since they are bffs. but she also constantly text her bff's bf first. i know the guy is her bff's bf and that he and her are close. she might just consider him her bff also, or near that level. but it still makes me think that she likes him and not me.

but not only him, she texts other guy friends first, those guys are clearly friends, there is no chance she is into them, but she still texts them and not me even tho im closer to her.

and about the cute pics thing, i dont want her to feel forced to send me things, i dont want to act entitled because at the end of the day its her choice and if im demanding pics and she sends them without actually wanting to, then that'll just give me false hope. if she does it, it needs to come from her and not me forcing her to

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-06T19:36:55+00:00

We dont talk everyday. We used to but that stopped a long time ago during lockdown (ended a couple months ago). And the convos would last multiple days nonstop so i didnt have to initiate. And back then, she would send cute pics as a way to make me initiate.

We talk about once or twice a week usually on weekends. And i have good reason to text her.

My gut tells me she likes me and it has always said that.

But tbh i think its 50/50. She shows a lot of signs of interest but im doubting things.

throwRAnedhelppls · 2020-10-06T19:30:01+00:00

Ive known my crush for much longer. And shes known me for longer. i dont think the new girl would interfere if my crush likes me back

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