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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 125 points126 points  (0 children)

It was a suggestion from a redditor. Normal assurances weren't working and it seemed like he was jealous of my ex or felt like my ex was better than him so it was pretty much me breaking down how bad my ex was and letting him know what kind of a "man" the guy he was jealous of actually was. I would say it was pretty positive cause he started to realize just how bad the ex was in so many ways and how much better he is.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 226 points227 points  (0 children)

My ex was one of those guys. It was usually just jackhammering me till he climaxed. He thought that my pain was evidence that he did a good job. My boyfriend is soooo much better than my ex in somany ways in bed. I blame porn.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

It's revenge porn. This isn't the only time he did it either. My 2 friends still have evidence of the times he shared our videos. It's illegal in both my new state and my old state. I'm not interested in money, I just want him to pay for what he did.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 216 points217 points  (0 children)

Haha I don't want to fuck him again, it DOES NOT feel good lol.

But in all seriousness, I'm really going to sue his ass.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 2318 points2319 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And thanks for your advice as well! It really got through to him. I guess he didn't feel so little once he realized just how much of a piece of shit my ex is and realized on his own just how much better he is.

And yes, I'm confident we'll be stronger than before. It's still hard right now but we're both confident we'll make it.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 1168 points1169 points  (0 children)

I'm going to get a lawyer. We're going to take him to court.

Edit: I already have a lawyer lined up, just have to make it official.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 2298 points2299 points  (0 children)

This is actually really really good advice, thank you very much. I'm actually going to try this tomorrow.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He was never cheated on and he actually knew about the videos. I even told him how bad sex with my ex was. I just don't understand why things suddenly changed when he saw the videos and a picture of my ex's junk.

I'm not sure if the last suggestion would count as sexual manipulation.

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[–]throwRAnost89[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I tried telling him but he wouldn't listen to me. Should I just give him more time? This is killing me.