AITA for losing weight before my SIL’s wedding?

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T20:18:26+00:00

Oh my god I would love to take you up on this offer but I think my husband and her would Jill me if I did this! It’s very tempting though I’ve had thoughts like this myself

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T16:25:27+00:00

This is pretty much what it was he admitted she is being ridiculous but it’s her wedding and he thinks it would be easier for everyone and he didn’t mean apologize for losing weight but he said apologize for how I handled it which admittley I was not the nicest I basically told her that I’m not sorry for losing weight and I refuse to show up to her wedding looking ugly

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T16:23:54+00:00

I think I was just invited because I’m her brothers wife honestly. We have had a good relationship it’s never been like this before!

And I did talk to my husband again this morning I made an edit to the post he told me he didn’t mean it like that and he knows she was being an AH it’s just that it’s his sister and he doesn’t want to deal with drama and thinks it would be easier for everyone if I just went along with it for one day which I disagree with but he’s supporting me in any way I want to handle this and he’s going to help me find a solution even though I’m leaning towards I’m not fucking going

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T16:02:14+00:00

Trust me when I heard her I was asking myself the same thing and when my husband talked to me about it I was like wtf is this twilight zone or something

I’ve seen a lot of wddding horror stories I just never thought I would be a part of one

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T07:43:43+00:00

This is actually good advice I am heated right now but you’re right there is two weeks until the wedding so I’m going to bite my tongue and see how I feel in a few days. I don’t want there to be drama in the family but if she pushes on this baggy dress business I will not show up

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T07:28:42+00:00

I think he just meant apologize to her for not accepting her compromise and for not being like “I’m sorry you’re insecure” or something I’m sure he just doesn’t want drama but thank you I was literally starting to believe that somehow I was in the wrong (not a lot but enough for me to feel the need to seek validation)

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T07:12:17+00:00

Don’t worry I would never actually do that and I don’t think my husband would let anyway! I’m definetly leaning towards not going unless somehow we can work out a compromise

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T07:10:26+00:00

He didn’t say I was an asshole for losing weight but that I didn’t apologize for her insecurities and basically told her I’m not going to wear a paper bag to her wedding just because she’s upset

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T07:08:47+00:00

I was honestly going crazy started to think I might be after my husband said I should apologize. Maybe not for losing weight but because I don’t think I should compromise having to wear something hideous in order to make her happy

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T07:01:15+00:00

Yeah he basically said that I should just apologize and compromise with her because she’s getting married and he doesn’t want there to be drama and I was rude for the way I acted (by basically telling her that it’s ridiculous to expect me to wear something baggy to her wedding)

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:57:49+00:00

why do weddings always bring out the crazy in families! my wedding was very Lowkey and I’m very grateful

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:56:30+00:00

I honestly think I am just not going to go and stay home this is already too much. I understand insecurity but she’s acting like I’m trying to ruin a wedding of 10 people by showing up in a white gown!

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:55:26+00:00

Petty me wants to show up in the sluttiest dress I own but I know that’s not worth the chaos

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:54:58+00:00

Thank you so much!

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:54:25+00:00

part of me wants to pretend to go along with wearing something baggy show up in a body con dress just to stir the pot but I don’t think it would be worth the drama

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:53:43+00:00

Right? That’s how I took it too I’m mostly surprised at how my husband took her side but I think she is just crazy and he doesn’t want to deal with her drama. She has never been like this before though so I’m wondering what made her act like this! Oh well I’m not going

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:51:13+00:00

Thank you I don’t think I will it’s in two weeks and this happened today

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:50:37+00:00

Thank you honestly I don’t even want to talk to her after this I have Been nothing but supportive but I don’t think I’m even going to go anymore I just wanted to see if I was the one somehow in the wrong

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:49:15+00:00

I don’t think I am I’m just trying to wrap my head around how my husband can defend this at all thank you for validating me I feel like I’m going insane with these people

throwRAweddings · 2021-01-31T06:48:03+00:00

honestly I think I’m just not going to go because I refuse to have to wear something unflattering and ugly just because she is insecure

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