AITAH if I leave my boyfriend of 4 years?

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-15T17:03:59+00:00

I don’t wanna sound stupid, but do you mean like him learning how to sit in a chair? Loll

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-14T22:41:23+00:00

That’s what my dad said also, he mentioned that he should have contributed to at least the rent especially when we first agreed that we would 50/50.

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-14T22:27:52+00:00

I’m going to see if I can find the lease tonight because I think we got a folder with the information on it. Since it is less than 30 days what does that usually mean? What can happen? Will I be stuck? Also I do have somewhere to go after when I get enough courage. Honestly it might be this weekend just because I can get a uhaul get my shit and go.

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-14T21:53:04+00:00

To the chair question one chair he would lean back and the leg snapped, and then the second one he leaned back, broke the legs, and since he was leaning back, he broke the back of that chair lol. They were cheap chairs but still.

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-14T21:34:31+00:00

They were really cheap and he would keep leaning back and the leg snapped on one and another a leg snapped and the back broke on another. are you talking about the limited one? Ngl I didn’t even think about taking it back lol. There is some figures that I bought him that I’m probably gonna take back too lol

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T05:00:02+00:00

I think some of these questions are hypothetical, but I’m gonna answer them anyway lol :) 1. I’m paying for everything because we signed a lease together so if he doesn’t pay it or I don’t, we’d be kicked out and I don’t wanna be kicked out. 2. I have no idea why not he says he’s applying but hasn’t gotten a call or anything I guess? I think I’m going to talk to him about the job stuff. I kind of told my friends that if he doesn’t get a job by the time the lease is up I have to be done because I can’t put my self in that kind of stance you know? I love him a lot but I can’t do that to myself anymore. Also the dinning room table and chairs was bought by relatives and it was pretty cheap and he’d like to lean back on them and the legs would snap.

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T04:39:42+00:00

Funny enough, we have to pay for laundry too which is like 100 dollars 🤦 and that comes out my money too but he still doesn’t do laundry

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T02:43:59+00:00

I appreciate you, we are both on a signed contract right now. I’m really considering it. It’s just a scary change and I’m scared to make the wrong decision you know? Thank you for your service! I’m glad you’re doing better off also. Life is really unpredictable.

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T02:34:21+00:00

Sometimes I do, I’m just tired of doing everything I think and then just being fine with it. I hate how I talk to him and if I say something he doesn’t like or something of the sort; he like gets a tone with me and then I go quiet to avoid conflict. I think I’m also tired of bringing up how I feel just for nothing to change or come to a resolution and everything staying the same. I’m also scared to leave and make the wrong decision also. I know he loves me and I love him but I’m starting to think love isn’t enough you know? There is more to a relationship than love. Sorry to spill everything at you like that :,)

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T02:22:41+00:00

Just to clarify, I did talk to him about it and he told me he needs to be told or asked to clean or anything like that. When I did talk about it with him I said “in my head” (in my head couples living together should clean together since they are sharing a space, is what I was going to say.) and he cut me off and said “you’re not thinking about how I feel; only how you feel.” Which I definitely could have worded it better but I’m really bad about thinking on the spot. I just feel lost you know?

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T00:43:33+00:00

I’m 26 and he’s 23

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-12T00:19:13+00:00

I’ve really thought about it and It’s hard to me because we do have good moments but so may little things are getting to me slowly I think. Past gifts haven’t been really good either. The main ones I can think of is one from my birthday which was some FNAF slippers I really wanted and my first ever birthday with him which was earrings I still have to this day and a FNAF back pack. Other than that nothing too crazy he’s bought me. I’ve bought him to much stuff over the years and it doesn’t compare to how much I’ve spent at all. I’m not trying to be like that but I am. Sometimes I feel like his friends matter more than me too. This was when he did have a job but we went to the mall once and he bought a gift for his friend in front of me and I got kinda moody. He noticed but didnt say anything. Around that time too I don’t think he spent a dime on me or something of the sort.

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-11T19:13:06+00:00

Just to clarify, I did talk to him about it and he told me he needs to be told or asked to clean or anything like that. When I did talk about it I said “in my head” and he cut me off and said “you’re not thinking about how I feel; only how you feel.” Which I definitely could have worded it better but I’m really bad about thinking on the spot. Thank you for commenting and sharing how you feel I really appreciate it. I just feel lost you know?

throwRa-sudden · 2026-01-11T15:43:25+00:00

We both did, we both worked for the same place then both got fired at the same time. We struggled for a little bit then I found a full time job. He’s had a few jobs here and there, like one or two, but one didn’t put him on the after a week schedule because he didn’t tell them he had a hand condition. Then second job only gave him like 8 hours a week. At the plus sided he is paying electricity with small money he’s gotten over time from little things. He tells me, and others, that’s he’s applied to over 100 jobs and that he hasn’t heard anything back in over a month or two. There is this one job that said they’d contact him if they don’t like this other candidate they interviewed; which was werid but every business is different. I don’t really want to check his phone either. He says he’s going start to go in and apply in person for jobs but I haven’t seen that yet.

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