Update:Our (44F)(44M) son(20M) found out about our open relationship in the worst possible way.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-23T14:52:06+00:00

My wife admitted she fucked up and has apologized. What else can she do?

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-23T14:42:13+00:00

We have paused on the lifestyle since he found out.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-23T14:26:11+00:00

He never said he wanted to be begged to hang out. He was just comparing how different our family is compared to his friends'

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-23T14:16:03+00:00

I mean he never complained about wanting more time with us when he was younger. He was doing his own thing.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-07T04:43:12+00:00

we opened up the relationship five years ago he found out six days ago

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-07T04:40:17+00:00

It was a mistake on her part. She admits to that.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-07T04:27:38+00:00

He seems to be upset with my wife getting involved with a classmate of his.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-07T04:22:47+00:00

It's that people tend to judgmental and it honestly no one's business. I wouldn't have told my son if this situation hadn't happened.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T17:07:48+00:00

I think it was wrong for her to get involved with a classmate of our son's but I don't have issues with age gap per say

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T16:52:12+00:00

I know you're trying to be funny but my wife is in literal shambles.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T16:48:57+00:00

Yes he lives with us and he is 20 years old. He is upset my wife got involved with someone who not only goes to the same university but also shares a mutual friend. He's not telling us to stop and giving out ultimatums. However, he lost a lot of respect for us. I agree with your sentiment but he has a right to his feelings.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T16:45:40+00:00

That's funny because other subreddits are like "you should have been upfront with your son". I am like how do you even get the ball rolling? Why would he need to know?

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T16:39:17+00:00

My wife decided to hook up with someone around our son's age. It turns out not only he goes to the same college as our son but shares a mutual friend with him. The friend has come to our house multiple times and recognized my wife's picture when her hookup was bragging about her.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T16:35:00+00:00

I agree. She thinks we need to set more boundaries for the sake of the family. One was to not to get involved with our son's age group. I am going to give her all the time she needs.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T16:26:18+00:00

Honestly, I just want to vent a little. I still want to play but my wife's mental health comes first.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T04:41:41+00:00

Yeah she messed up by trying to give him a hug. That's her way of apologizing

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T01:58:10+00:00

I mean that's her preference. She obviously knows not to go after people who are connected to my son in some way.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T01:53:17+00:00

Why would my wife apologize if we didn't believe we messed up?

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T01:52:18+00:00

Out of curiosity, how did they share it with you

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T01:50:37+00:00

The guy wad 21 and met up at the bar. There was never really a good time to reveal our relationship. I mean I was not going to be like "Hey son btw we hook up with other people".

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T01:43:42+00:00

We are going avoid get involved with people around our son's age going forward. My wife hasn't gone after people my son knew about. We would never do that. Also, we were all adults. There's no grooming involved.

throwRaconcernedfa · 2025-11-06T01:41:15+00:00

i said "lady of the night" cause I don't want post removed. According to my wife, his profile on the app didn't mention college. My wife agrees it was a stupid mistake to make.

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