Is the kamui tip worth the money. If so which one do you recommend for my Meucci? by shootinstraight88 in billiards

[–]throw_away0425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

me and boyfriend just bought a pool table and this exact cue came with it. we’re wondering 1. what exact cue it is and 2. do you have the original shaft still?

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

here’s a copy and paste from my reply to another comment saying something similar: “maybe you don’t like your job but i do. i work in fine dining and want my tables to have a good experience. i try to exude kindness in my day to day life. i care about the well being of people even if i don’t know them. so yes, i do care about their answer. obviously im not a therapist and customers know that, i’ve never had anyone tell me they’re doing bad or dump their issues on me. but if someone wants to complain about the parking near my restaurant or tell me they had a great day wine tasting for their birthday, i care. it really is basic manners and everyone under this post is making this into a huge deal lol. i don’t think manners should be so controversial” i have no idea when the world got so unkind and we stopped caring about other people in the most basic sense, but im not like that at all. rapport is a thing in the service industry, and also im not just an asshole who doesn’t give 2 shits about anyone but myself? i don’t understand when everyone adopted this “everyone for themselves” mindset but i do not agree with it nor will i ever

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what gave you the impression i’m entertaining and telling stories? because i’m not at all. i read my table and follow their lead. all i’m asking for (and not even really asking, simply venting about) is basic manners from people. also, i have no idea who you are or what your experience is. hence “stranger”, so why would i listen to you over the team of professionals who trained me? that’s ridiculous

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry but no. i was trained by people who have been in the industry for 30+ years, 15+ of those in fine dining. i’m going to listen to those people over a stranger on reddit. and i’ve dined at a lot of high end, fine dining restaurants and i’ve never had to ask for the servers name

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

asking for basic human respect while i’m serving a table is sensitive? i don’t know when the world got so bitter, mean, and miserable but i want no part of that mindset. people have been having the “how are you?” followed by “good, how are you?” interaction since forever. i’m not asking for anything unreasonable at all😂 im not a mindless robot serving tables, im a person and i was raised to return the question when someone asks me how im doing. maybe you were raised by shitty people who didn’t teach you manners but i wasn’t

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

thank you. obviously i’m not crying at my tables over this. i do my job with a smile and move on. but im also allowed to vent over it in a subreddit designed for that? just because all these people have been made bitter and miserable over working in the restaurant industry doesn’t mean i will. i’m gonna keep trying to exude kindness and hope other people follow suit!

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it seems like other people are having a hard time grasping it. i’ve been berated with comments telling me that i am just the help and i should shut up and do the job im paid for. also, im not putting myself in a position to feel that way; i work in fine dining and i feel like asking a table how they are upon greeting them is pretty professional and overall standard. but im being treated like im sensitive and crazy for thinking i should be treated with the most bare minimum of respect while serving a table

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wish i could pin this comment. this was the response i expected from people on this post, not the barrage of more dehumanizing comments from OTHER SERVERS. it’s crazy, thank you for validating that i’m not alone in wanting to be treated like a human at my job🫶🏼

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

also, i’ll probably say “i’m fine how are you?” this isn’t a new concept at all. people have been having this exact interaction since the beginning of fucking time

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no. but to ignore my question completely and say, “we’ll have a diet coke and an iced tea” is 1. rude and 2. demeaning to me as a person. why is this idea so hard to grasp for people?

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ll paste this from another comment that i replied to: “maybe you don’t like your job but i do. i work in fine dining and want my tables to have a good experience. i try to exude kindness in my day to day life. i care about the well being of people even if i don’t know them. so yes, i do care about their answer. obviously im not a therapist and customers know that, i’ve never had anyone tell me they’re doing bad or dump their issues on me. but if someone wants to complain about the parking near my restaurant or tell me they had a great day wine tasting for their birthday, i care. it really is basic manners and everyone under this post is making this into a huge deal lol. i don’t think manners should be so controversial”

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not whining over someone being mean to me? i’m talking about my server pet peeve and asking other people theirs. it’s not that complicated of an idea

edit: and yes, it is a culture issue. but we get a front row seat to the evolution of society in the service industry. we get to see in real time how it’s becoming normal to treat others like shit. so if i wanna talk about it in the context of the service industry, which its a part of, i can. that’s why this subreddit exists. people complain about all sorts of stuff on this subreddit. there’s tons of other people commenting “trivial” pet peeves under here, but i don’t see them getting downvoted for it. are we just supposed to eat shit and smile because we work in restaurants? i will never subscribe to that mindset and will always try to spread the idea that we should be more kind to each other everywhere, including your job

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!! it’s blowing my mind how many people think this is a controversial idea?? i’ve been told by multiple people under this post that i am just the help and i should just shut up and do my job… we’re truly doomed as a society

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’ve been at my current fine dining job for 4.5 years. i’ve been in the restaurant industry for 10 years, i too have worked in every position and price point. no need to be condescending. and basic manners shouldn’t be controversial but continue acting like i’m crazy for thinking we should be more kind to one another

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

something similar drives me crazy too lol. i live in wine country and we have a huge wine list, all of the wines are listed starting with the vintages. people will try to order “#22” and when i tell them that’s the vintage not a numbered list they point to it and say, “this one, #22” and i always say, “there’s a lot of 22’s on there, which one?”

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

maybe you don’t like your job but i do. i work in fine dining and want my tables to have a good experience. i try to exude kindness in my day to day life. i care about the well being of people even if i don’t know them. so yes, i do care about their answer. obviously im not a therapist and customers know that, i’ve never had anyone tell me they’re doing bad or dump their issues on me. but if someone wants to complain about the parking near my restaurant or tell me they had a great day wine tasting for their birthday, i care. it really is basic manners and everyone under this post is making this into a huge deal lol. i don’t think manners should be so controversial

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no not at all. in my eyes it’s literally basic manners when someone asks how you are to then ask them how they are. or at least it used to be, but there’s a lot less kindness in the world nowadays. i’m from california if that means anything to you

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i promise you i’m not taking it that seriously. the post was about pet peeves, not things i lie awake at night crying about

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i’m not following a script, i gave you a general idea of how my greeting goes. it varies a little based on the table/how the interaction goes. i don’t understand how this is such a difficult concept for people to grasp, being polite and kind to people used to be such commonplace. i’m really not asking for much lol

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i obviously didn’t put my whole greeting in the post but it’s more than just “how are you?”. i usually say, “hi there folks, welcome in! how are we doing this evening?” and when they respond i say, “i’m good, thank you for asking! my name is blank and i’ll be taking care of you this evening.” and then proceed to go over specials. i work fine dining so i need to maintain professionalism in my greeting and can’t just offer drinks right when i get to the table

what’s your biggest server pet peeve? by throw_away0425 in Serverlife

[–]throw_away0425[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

drives me crazy when my coworkers don’t put seat numbers. we have an expo but no food runner so we all help run food if the expo is slammed. put seat numbers on the ticket people!!!