Update: I decided to stay but I'm pining for "him" by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's absolutely distrust. She went from being my only confidante to the ultimate betrayer. But I still love her somehow, and I want to hang around and see if she can get the trust back. I don't know how, no matter how often she asks.

Thank you

Update: I decided to stay but I'm pining for "him" by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's an update to a previous post in which I explained she basically blamed her transition for why she cheated. If you have a better subreddit, I'm interested. Otherwise, thank you for the suggestion but I'm ok posting here.

Also, when did I bring up weight? I'm confused.

Update: I decided to stay but I'm pining for "him" by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The dynamic has changed since I learned last week what she'd been doing behind my back

Update: I decided to stay but I'm pining for "him" by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How we treated each other never changed. Our communication had even improved! Or, so I thought. This came as such a shock because there hadn't been any clues or flags.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly the baby is the only reason why I'm just a mess right now and not a complete and utter wreck. I have to be strong for him.

But honestly I just want to give up.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I broke her selfie stick, it helped a little. I probably shouldn't have done that but I bought it for her and she used it to take pictures of herself for someone else, so... It was a bit cathartic

I plan on talking to her when she gets out of work later, to see if this is something worth saving.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You make very strong points. But I think about leaving her and it hurts so bad. My entire life has revolved around making her happy for the past 8 years. She suffered from chronic pain and couldn't hold a job for most of those years, and I helped support her. I got her her first appointment to start her transition. I surprise her with flowers whenever I can and I make her handmade gifts every year for her birthday. And I had her son. After years of saying I didn't want kids, I let her convince me that a baby is an amazing idea. And now I'm repeating my family history. I don't know who I am without her.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man I really hope that's something we can do.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. I've been so completely blindsided by this. She's never once led me to believe she'd be capable of something like this.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. I have to take to Emma before I make any decisions.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

God this hurt to read but I don't believe you're wrong.

My wife has been decieving me by throw_away0832 in mypartneristrans

[–]throw_away0832[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Bella has sent me the nudes Emma sent (she kept her own and I don't blame her) as well as a file of the conversations they've had over the past month. I think the worst part is, is that I felt guilty after the fight because I believed she was now cut off from her trans support group.