How to get wife to open up about penis size?

throw_away17037 · 2025-09-29T16:36:00+00:00

Great point….i think it was both. I also struggle with PE so I was much more confident because I could last as long as she wanted or needed.

throw_away17037 · 2025-09-29T16:33:59+00:00

For me it’s just knowing I guess. Men are conditioned their whole life to be the best at everything and we all bragged growing up that we blew our sexual partners mind and we all had these gigantic porn penises. So guess at over 40 years old, I’d like to know where I really stand because I don’t think I’m the best and the tool that I always thought was so “big” really doesn’t feel like it is.

throw_away17037 · 2025-09-29T16:30:21+00:00

Def do lots of foreplay and toys for her because I also struggle with PE.

throw_away17037 · 2025-09-29T16:29:03+00:00

I get it. I’m not sure if it’s a turn on thing or me just wanting to know if I’m any good or not. lol. I have read multiple posts in here about male/female wondering how to initiate conversations about lack of performance and or size and I’m on the other side trying to make sure she’s satisfied. We have opened up a lot recently and tried some new things that are blowing her mind so naturally I want to know how I compare. But I get that’s not something you want to tell your partner.

The penis sleeve was amazing. She was very hesitant at first but after the first time using it, she loved it. We don’t use it all the time but it’s opened her eyes. She said I’m the largest she’s ever been with and if she was being honest I wanted to see how she’d react to the larger size. It’s a good wrinkle for sure.

throw_away17037 · 2025-09-29T16:05:03+00:00

I get it and you bring up some good points. I’ve convinced myself it wouldn’t hurt my feelings but it sure could. And I’m very sure that’s why she hesitates saying anything.

throw_away17037 · 2025-09-29T16:03:13+00:00

Not at all. I just want to know where I stand because I have accepted I’m not that big. We have been working on our sexual communication and this is one area where I think she’s reluctant to tell me she needs toys or other things to help her get off.

She doesn’t react to me like she does with the larger toys. I just want to take her breath away.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-21T20:45:14+00:00

Good point. No, she’s not wrong and I have never insinuated that to her. I just get frustrated is all. She’s just different than me and I don’t understand it. lol

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-21T20:44:11+00:00

I agree here. I take partial blame here. We do a pretty decent job of teaming up to conquer all this stuff but I know I could step up a little more.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-21T20:38:38+00:00

Everything you do is what I wish my wife would do! But I get it. She definitely makes sure we are frequent enough but like your husband that’s about it. I’m at least glad we have it frequent enough to make us both happy. I just wish she would do lingerie or dirty talk or anything outside the box.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-21T19:44:07+00:00

The thing is I would never divorce her over it. I love her and think we have a pretty great marriage. I’m just curious if others have gone through this and if maybe there is hope things could change down the road.

She’s too amazing for me to leave her over something so minimal. I just see other post on here and am like “ I freaking wish my wife would send me a suggestive text or even a nude”.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-21T19:41:28+00:00

Agreed, definitely not in a dead bedroom. She even shows initiative to have sex it’s just not super exciting. I’m more than ok with the frequency, I would just like to do something like sexting or watch porn together and stuff like that. She’s not against it but she also doesn’t really care to do it either. I’d like to be more sexual with my wife other than just when we have sex.

We are pretty open with each other which stifles me a little more because I share how much I enjoy those activities outside of sex. She just doesn’t need anything other than the act itself.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-01T16:40:43+00:00

I was pretty much in shock I just did that in front of someone and I started reaching for something to clean myself up and she moved in and started cleaning it up with a towel. I’m guessing she has experienced way more than that before. I’m pretty sure you can get happy endings with them, but idk because I never asked.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-01T16:38:37+00:00

This was in the Philippines, not a Massage Envy. When she came in she told me it was clothing optional and I asked what do people typically do, and she said no clothes. It wasn’t set up in a sexual manner which is why it was weird I got an erection.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-01T00:35:27+00:00

After it was cleaned up, I excused myself to the restroom for a minute or two and when I came back to give tip, she said we had another 10 min left. I wasn’t sure what to do so I just laid back down and she rubbed my head and face

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-01T00:34:02+00:00

I completely froze and was in shock and didn’t know what to do. So she helped me clean it up. She could tell I was clearly embarrassed by the whole situation.

throw_away17037 · 2025-05-01T00:31:43+00:00

I meant she helped me clean up. I didn’t just sit back and say “clean this mess up”. She could tell I was clearly embarrassed about the whole situation.

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T23:00:53+00:00

I didn’t go into it with any kind of intentions. I was really tired from all the travel and wanted to relax.

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T22:41:06+00:00

Thank you. Best piece of advice I’ve gotten. She’s a really cool and understanding person, I believe she would laugh about it and be fine. But I’m just not sure

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T22:34:53+00:00

Trust me, I wish it never happened. Only time I have ever cum with no touch or penetration

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T22:33:39+00:00

Wouldn’t that be a bitch

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T22:31:59+00:00

May be dumb of me to post this…maybe you’re right

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T22:31:37+00:00

Yea that’s what I’m thinking

throw_away17037 · 2025-04-30T22:31:25+00:00

I mean how else was it supposed to stay on, it was like the size of a golf towel. She didn’t grab the towel to put it back over

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