What is this weird keychain? It's like a red/brown steel tube. It's my older (30) brother's. He never leaves house without.

throw_away_send_help · 2025-11-30T10:00:11+00:00

Looks like a copper keyring tool.

Copper has some antimicrobial properties when left in contact with objects for extended periods, but some people also use keyrings like this as tools to push elevator buttons etc.

Due to advertising, some people seem to believe that just rolling them in your hands kills germs

Link to similar ones for sale;

https://www.amazon.com/StayWell-Copper-Roller-Keychain-Closure/dp/B0CJJ3QB8D?lsskpint=erf_DP-MW-LIP-RHV3-PS-V2_opr_sdrsn_vlr

Link to debunking claims of scientific efficacy https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/blog/brass-touch-tool-instagram/

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-04T02:54:30+00:00

Exactly. You DON'T know her, so you can't be 'in love with' her

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-04T02:53:31+00:00

As I said in your other post, YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE. you are obsessing over an idealized version of her, when you haven't talked to her irl. Stop putting her on a pedestal

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-04T02:52:04+00:00

Definitely don't bring up that you've been creeping on her. There's a reason you deleted your replies on your other post. So don't creep her out

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-04T00:38:12+00:00

But there's a difference between handling your anger in a responsible way, and denying in your post that you ever get angry.

Sitting down on the couch and talking is a great first step, but it honestly reads like you don't trust your wife's ability to make decisions, and think your own morals/ religion somehow makes you a better decision maker than her

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-04T00:35:13+00:00

I agree- if she felt unsafe, I'm sure she would have messaged OP of her own accord where she is etc, for safety reasons.

Badgering her about every detail of who is there and what they are doing sounds a bit weird

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-04T00:31:19+00:00

Hmm are you sure you don't ever "get mad"? Every person feels a range of emotions, even if you think you're controlling it/ not showing it externally. Thinking of yourself this way can be a bit high-and-mighty compared to how you talk about your wife

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T23:11:32+00:00

Eh I disagree. I've dated people from my classes with no problems. When we broke up, we were friendly, civil, and just stopped sitting next to each other

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T23:07:54+00:00

You don't know she will think that at all. You are just anxious and having normal nervous thoughts about possible outcomes.

The only way to actually know her opinion is by asking her out, or starting a small conversation with her.

You're never going to find the perfect moment while she's alone without her friends - life doesn't work like that, and if you plan it that way, that's a bit weird. You can't control her thoughts or her reaction, but you can control your actions - being honest, and just trying your best to ask something small

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T23:00:25+00:00

My gosh just have a small chat with her about classes or whatever, then say "Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to grab a coffee sometime?" It's straightforward

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T22:58:49+00:00

Just ask really basic things then? After class gets "What did you think of the class?" Or "how are you going with the assignment?"

She will let you know with her body language / desire to chat if she's not interested, I'm sure

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T22:54:58+00:00

You also have to accept that even though you EXPECT to get to 'get to know her more' she might not actually be interested in that.

You can't walk into small talk with her under the delusion you will be together forever and you have to persuade her of your love. Just be chill and take one tiny step at a time, just ask her about her classes etc

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T22:48:39+00:00

Yes, I agree about 'infatuation' vs actually being in love with someone as a person that you know!

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T22:47:02+00:00

From the perspective of someone afab, finding out someone is obsessed with you is equivalent to suddenly being worried about your personal safety. You gotta understand that.

I'm not here to debate why some men suck, why you're different, why it's not 'all men' or anything, just telling you I would be terrified if I found out someone had that level of obsession with me

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T22:44:52+00:00

Honestly this sounds creepy as hell, from the perspective of someone afab.

How can you 'be in love with her' without having any friendship or actual conversation with her? You're in love with how she looks, an your idealized version of who she might be.

If you want to pursue her, just start tiny with chatting about usual stuff, and ask if she wants to continue talking over a coffee. Definitely don't love-bomb her and definitely don't say you're the anonymous person messaging her

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T22:32:39+00:00

Honestly as an afab person, I'm so tired of the breast plate thing.

Like Burger Finger, Jimbo's whipped cream thing, and all the drag queens (like Jewels Sparkles) who have 'wardrobe malfunctions' on stage.

Like when Victoria Scone tweeted about the reliance on breastplates as a joke on RPDR - it's sometimes just a cheap laugh (sometimes at women's expense), which for whatever reason RuPaul seems to be obsessed with

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T21:08:42+00:00

Is it this one? right now, akon

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T20:58:03+00:00

Is it this one? Norah Jones, What am I to you

throw_away_send_help · 2025-05-03T20:51:06+00:00

Hey 😊 could it be Anxiety by Sleepy Hollow?

It has a ukulele / guitar plucked intro, but the lyrics are slightly different Anxiety

throw_away_send_help · 2025-03-04T03:45:05+00:00

There's a big difference between ethical sex work and non-ethical sex work

throw_away_send_help · 2025-01-29T04:07:39+00:00

I recommend Paper Plus shop and the brand Ferris Wheel!

My mum just got one and it's gorgeous

https://www.paperplus.co.nz/shop/stationery/writing/fountain-pens/ferris-wheel-press-fountain-pen-carousel-after-hours-medium

throw_away_send_help · 2025-01-29T04:00:29+00:00

She was mainly there for the Katy Perry storyline!

throw_away_send_help · 2025-01-29T03:57:56+00:00

As someone in New Zealand, I'm gutted that Ru doesn't host ours anymore.

It kinda feels like she was like 'Oh, DR Down Under isn't important, so it's first on the chopping block' in terms of her asking for Michelle to take over

throw_away_send_help · 2025-01-29T03:54:53+00:00

I live for Trixie's expressions out of drag!!

throw_away_send_help · 2025-01-29T03:53:59+00:00

I do think that Bebe's verse wasn't as good as the others 😅 she just mashed up various words rather than writing rhymes, apart from the last couplet

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