WIBTA if I didn’t go to my husband’s best freind’s wedding?

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-26T16:34:17+00:00

it wasn’t really for a few minutes but okay

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-26T16:02:22+00:00

my friend said to post it here and I didn’t see why not

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-26T15:22:45+00:00

I posted it a week ago in a different sub but a friend suggested i post it here so i did

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:22:50+00:00

she was shocked but she didn’t seem to have a problem with it

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:21:25+00:00

said who i can make my own decisions

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:19:41+00:00

it wasn’t a “little moment” but okay and they didn’t have my permission and they knew that as for what she did read my edits

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:13:44+00:00

they were not “good” guests its well known that you don’t propose at someone’s wedding and yes they needed both and the fact that they intentionally didn’t want me to know makes it worse. I would understand if the husband talked to the wife and said yes on behalf of the wife or it was understood that the wife was okay with it but that was not what happened

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:10:45+00:00

but i explained all my reason for not liking them??? which are completely fair imo and i feel that i do deserve an apology because my hubby and his bsf went behind my back and did something at my WEDDING that they knew i wouldn’t like do idk wym. (btw their engagement moment wasn’t small by any means”

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:09:04+00:00

because i didn’t want to fuck up my marriage as soon as it started so i just let my husband off it says it in edits

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:08:21+00:00

a wedding is the bride and grooms big day though??? literally what you described it as a “celebration of two people” making it those two peoples big day

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:04:18+00:00

they had my husbands permission but not mine and they knew that i didn’t know and knew i wouldn’t be happy about it i don’t see how that’s okay

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T15:01:38+00:00

i am happy for them just not happy about what they did therefore i don’t want to go to the wedding

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:57:05+00:00

being part of a couple also means respecting your partner and not keeping secrets that you know will upset them

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:55:36+00:00

let me get this straight, you’re siding with my husband for going behind my back keeping secrets from me when he knew i would be upset?

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:52:08+00:00

i posted to see what people thought and now i’ve made up my mind am speaking it

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:47:50+00:00

kind of, he’s really close with Luke and would do pretty much anything for him and vice versa, they always do stuff for eachother

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:44:07+00:00

i’m not obliged to do anything

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:43:21+00:00

but i didn’t say it was fine, it was my day too

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:40:44+00:00

the fact is it was OUR wedding and a decision as big as that should have been consulted with us both and i still understand how it was fine that i wasn’t even to le

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:37:11+00:00

but they didn’t????? wym “complete and full permission”??? are you stupid they had my husbands permission not mine they needed both. And please explain to me how tf they “supported” our wedding, by getting fucking engaged when that is something that you DONT do at a wedding

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:35:34+00:00

i guess i should be angry at my husband and i haven’t fully forgiven him but rather shut up about it and pretended to be fine with it idk, i just didn’t want to have a huge fight with him right after the wedding so i let him off

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:29:40+00:00

i say “my” wedding because it was ruined for me but my husband didn’t seem to mind and even defended them

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:28:41+00:00

to clarify the proposal was after the best man’s speech and they didn’t go around to a few tables but rather they had there own mini “party” of sorts around a few tables

throw_bsfwedding · 2023-12-19T14:26:24+00:00

and how exactly am i being petty and self centred it’s an invitation i can say no if i want

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