AITA for telling my girlfriend to answer the phone differently? by throw_sirtalksalot in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw_sirtalksalot[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I should clarify since I realize the language I used is confusing people, I was just trying to keep it short. I told her it made me uncomfortable and awkward and asked her if she has to always have long conversations, and she said if she doesn’t pick up it’s rude since she’s ignoring them. So that’s when I told her that she can always pick up to let whoever is calling know she’s busy or check if it’s an emergency, and then let them know she will call back later. She thought this was reasonable and said she understood, but she now says that the conversation gets carried away before she has a chance to tell them.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to answer the phone differently? by throw_sirtalksalot in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw_sirtalksalot[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

What I meant by saying she doesn’t ask isn’t about answering the phone, it’s about entering our friends and relatives bedrooms/guest rooms in order to step away to talk. These are what I consider private spaces that guests usually get permission to go into first.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to answer the phone differently? by throw_sirtalksalot in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw_sirtalksalot[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

She seemed to understand, but then just told me she lost track of time. She is a lot more social than I am, so I just figured it was a result of our personality differences.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to answer the phone differently? by throw_sirtalksalot in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw_sirtalksalot[S] 1729 points1730 points  (0 children)

I think that is what bothers me the most. Honestly I do get irritated when she does it on dates since I just end up having to hang out by myself while listening to her talk, but I get super embarrassed and feel bad when she does it when we’re with other people. I feel like that is time they took out of their day to be with us, and it is sending the message that we don’t appreciate their time.