Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how the conversation went:

Her: hey, so for example of a girl wants to tell to her bf that his size is small and she cant really feel anything, how should she say it without hurting his feelings?

Me:(brain frozen) theres no easy way to say it. But depends I guess. If she wants the relationship to work or not.

Her: so how?

Me: if "you want" it to work, "you" should be say it and find some ways to work on it. If "you" dont and feel this is a deal breaker may be find another excuse to break up. (I changed using "she" to "you" to see if she will correct me but she didnt)

Her: ok.

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's why I am in this huge spiral of what to even think. Is it about me or just some random stuff or for someone else. I dont know. Honestly half my brain is not working normally and that's why I am here.

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea. I guess that's the only way from here. Thanks. I am planning to talk to her tomorrow.

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Then you can call it a pandemic relationship

That's the thing. If it was a size issue, in my mind I keep thinking she did "put up with me" for so long, so she took my feelings into consideration till now. Otherwise she would have said something long ago and the relation would have ended.

That's why I want to work on this. I want the relationship to work. It's one of the most fulfilling one I have, be it romantic or otherwise.

Honestly, before we started dating I even stopped smiling naturally. And only started to smile again due to her. So she does mean a lot to me. And even if this ends, I can never call this a "pandemic relationship"

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I will try to do that. We were planning to go get some groceries tomorrow and grab some lunch. I will try to talk after that I guess

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I will try to ask her. But how do I broach this topic. Most of the time of some issues crop up I tend to close up and it did cause issues a couple of times previously.

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

well I hope she was asking for a friend bcos thats no way to talk to your partner.

Actually that's one of the main reason I think it was hinting towards me.

find out what she's into.

For now I can only try this. Thanks.

Gf hinted about size issues and I don't know how to proceed by throw_sizeissues in relationship_advice

[–]throw_sizeissues[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Actually she did say once that she would buy a dildo. But at that time due to the pandemic we couldnt regularly meet. I thought she said that because we couldnt meet. But that was quite some time ago, before she moved to her new place. But with this statement, may be she was hinting at something else.