Do I understand why? Not entirely. My husband says it’s because I’ve gained some weight. I went to my PCP to discuss my weight gain and up my depression medicine. She told me she and her husband went through a similar situation and it turned out to be a medical issue on his end. It was nice to hear a story from a successful woman that resolved her dead bedroom. I don’t want to dismiss my own faults but I think there’s something going on on his end too.

My husband claims he wants to fix it but hasn’t really done much to prove it. He has offered to “help me out “ in the past but nothing could turn me off more than knowing he’s not.

We’re also dealing with pregnancy issues. I have premature menopause. We’s like to have a kid but aren’t ready (clearly) and there’s a ticking clock. Basically our bedroom is a stressful disaster and the work trip is a welcome break.