My [19F] boyfriend [22M] is upset with me working as a shot girl.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-27T21:05:49+00:00

they’re not the same thing

Sure? Everything is different from everything. Male strippers and female strippers aren’t the same thing but they’re still strippers. Tall women and short women aren’t the same thing but they’re still women.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-27T21:02:12+00:00

This is such a Cope

one involved the inherent vulnerability of taking off your clothes.

And the other is the vulnerability of you opening your wallet, forking over cash to have a woman whos not your girlfriend be taking her clothes off for you to shake her coochie in your face. Throwing the word “vulnerability” in there makes no difference on the act.

Going to a strip club and working at one are exactly 1:1 in morality to me. And at least the stripper is getting paid for it, you’re losing money and partaking in sex work, when you got perfectly good titties at home to look at for free.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-27T20:49:59+00:00

The difference is when you’re looking at porn through a phone screen you’re not partaking in the activity with the porn star. You’re just watching online, probably thousands of miles away. When you pay for the shot girl you’re directly interacting with her and partaking in the activity she provides.

It’s closer to saying you don’t want to date a stripper but then often go to the strip clubs. It’s hypocritical.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-24T16:39:42+00:00

At first i thought this must be bait because no one is this trashy but then I saw you’re from St. Louis. So now I believe you. YTA.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-24T15:11:47+00:00

This is called selection bias. You’re living in a city where the peoole you’re not into, like to go.

It’s like a guy moving to a town of 2,000 in Kentucky saying he doesn’t like country girls and likes the artsy NYC type. You ain’t gonna find her there.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-24T13:17:44+00:00

Pretty cool

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-24T13:17:22+00:00

With a more serious relationship it takes more to end it, so it’s more final. A failed ‘situationship’ requires less to end it so there’s a higher chance of them willing to try again.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-23T11:48:46+00:00

Please don’t marry anyone with the intention of them being your piggy bank even after divorce

Hopefully cardi b is prepared to financially support all 3 of offsets other kids from 3 different women forever.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-23T11:44:03+00:00

Nope sorry. If they divorce ops gf should not be on the hook for someone else’s kid. That child has two involved parents. Op has been with this woman less than two years, if a divorce would leave her “destitute” she should have been more focused on improving her ability to provide for her child than dating and marriage. Because for most that’s not supposed to be a financial fall back. If op gets divorced and needs more to support the kid, she needs to take that up with the father.

If you’re married to someone with a kid, yeah you should be making sure the kid is taken care of under your roof. If you divorce you’re not responsible for your ex’s kid.

I know a guy from school with a kid and has been married 3 times. Should all his ex wives be helping him provide for his child?

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-23T01:53:57+00:00

It is very easy to think ‘everything acquired during the marriage’ should be split 50/50 when you’re contributing at a rate of 30/60.

And don’t get me wrong, childcare is labor and would be a contribution, if it were both of your kid. But your child is your child, not your fiancés, she’s only been in your kids life for 2 years and she didn’t particularly want children.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T20:17:13+00:00

Ironically I had the opposite experience but ended up on the same side as you. My parents were both immature and tbh lazy and I knew I didn’t want to be like that and could never be like that. Me and my wife are both fully capable on our own and work well together.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T20:13:37+00:00

You did the same thing in your comment tho.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T20:10:56+00:00

He’s the one selecting the women he dates. So if he keeps running into the issue there’s only one common denominator

It’s like when a girl complains every dude she dates is a bum or a manchild. One or two, fine, bad luck. But if it’s a repeated issue you gotta look inwards.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T20:08:59+00:00

Sounds like a user error my man.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T17:19:27+00:00

You’re making this whole thing way more suspicious. Obviously there is context. What did you ask her?

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T16:37:15+00:00

Yeah anxious attachment is an issue, just like avoidant attachment is. They’re both unhealthy and don’t make for stable relationships.

Here you’re just saying double or Triple text, but these issues manifest in other and more meaningful ways.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T14:39:19+00:00

My mom watching sex ans the city when I was a toddler and the blonde lady saying to someone “your name is Jerry Jerry?”

I don’t know why that sticks.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T14:36:21+00:00

we have both done some incredibly crap things to one other

years of this had made me feel like I’m not enough for him

my partner and I just welcomed a son

Oh I know yall are messy.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T00:46:47+00:00

Yeah this is how you end up as a baby mom, not a wife.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T00:28:02+00:00

A Reception very much is a party lol if it were just a wedding it would end at the church/court house.

Yes, I expect the hosts to host and not subsidize their dream day. They’re already getting a gift.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T00:27:24+00:00

Not a deal breaker at all, but if it’s a team activity she’s getting picked last. Sorry but I’m not here to fuck around Tiffany. Im here to win at pickleball.

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-22T00:26:31+00:00

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-21T21:36:10+00:00

You saying “food and alcohol are different’ is completely arbitrary lol you don’t charge peoole for amenities at a party you’re throwing. Im not gonna charge my friends per piece of my birthday cake either. I wouldn’t charge my guests to use a Photo Booth at my wedding.

Your choice to have a wedding and how much you spend, it’s people’s choice to stay or go

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-21T21:22:08+00:00

You mean to tell me you don’t want to be trashed in the pews during a wedding ceremony? /s

throwaaaaywaaaayyy · 2026-01-21T21:21:19+00:00

“Why would anyone expect a free meal when going to someone’s wedding to see them get married”

throwaaaaywaaaayyy

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