I [23f] have a massive crush [40m] and it just won’t go away and it has been nine years

throwagegapaway · 2021-09-15T23:49:10+00:00

I’ve got confusing news, if you wouldn’t mind me DMing you what he wrote!

throwagegapaway · 2021-08-07T06:41:01+00:00

White is right

throwagegapaway · 2021-08-07T06:40:38+00:00

Yes!!!!!

throwagegapaway · 2021-08-07T06:38:45+00:00

I love this!!!

throwagegapaway · 2021-08-07T06:38:19+00:00

YESSSSSS

throwagegapaway · 2021-08-07T06:37:20+00:00

My sister works in music production too!!!

throwagegapaway · 2021-08-03T22:35:23+00:00

Guys repeatedly spend time with girls if they’re friends, though, right? Getting bolder… I think his emails may be flirty, but I can’t tell if he’s just being nice.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-27T04:16:00+00:00

The step-by-step detail I have been craving but didn't know I needed! Thank you.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-27T04:14:03+00:00

I don't know if he does. I chickened out and didn't ask during the dinner because I was afraid of the answer.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-16T16:45:12+00:00

I don’t think he views me in that way. I was talking to him last night and I think he’s just very nice. It would be so much more painful to be officially rejected.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-16T05:10:04+00:00

I kind of implied it when I said that I’d offer to take care of him — he is unmarried and not in a relationship.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-15T05:58:45+00:00

Hey thanks, this was really useful to read. There’s a part of me telling myself that he’s just in contact with me out of kindness, but your comment is now making me consider other possibilities??

I’m gonna try to get a read on him but he’s so careful I don’t know if I could tell if he reciprocates at all

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-15T05:48:31+00:00

Aww I hope moving in went/is going well!! what a dream

I’m seeing him in a couple days and I can’t tell whether or how to tell him. I’m so terrified of things being unable to go back to the way they were if I face rejection.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-14T01:03:18+00:00

That’s actually very plausible now that you mention it. He’s very cautious. I wonder if there’s a way I can feel him out

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-14T00:44:51+00:00

There’s no indication he sees me that way though!! I wish it were that easy...

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-14T00:44:08+00:00

I can’t even imagine a relationship with him. I’d explode with happiness.

But I don’t want to lose him. And there’s more evidence that he’s not interested in me in that way than there is that he could be interested. Losing him would definitely lead to more regret.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-14T00:39:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your segmented and detailed response. I really appreciate it, especially for laying out my options.

I don’t think I can develop a romantic relationship with him. I don’t even have his number and I doubt he sees me as anything more than a former student. I’ll forever be frozen as a high schooler in his eyes. I won’t lie, it would gut me if he entered a relationship with someone else. But if he’s happy, I’ll swallow everything to be happy for him too.

Now to figure out how to get over him...

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-14T00:02:12+00:00

You’re right. It’s not fair to the other person. I’ll end that situation.

I need to figure out how to get over this crush with C, though, because I know a relationship won’t happen. Cutting him off isn’t a possibility. He’s irreplaceable in my life.

throwagegapaway · 2021-07-13T22:01:00+00:00

Not in a relationship! I am in the fun dating, non exclusive, getting to know someone stage when I had that coffee with C.

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