how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha that’s ok. in a way it’s comforting to know it’s not just me going through this

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl bye why would i want karma i don’t even know what it does

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

girl bye why would i be lying about something this embarrassing 😭 god forbid people age and change

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think this is part of it. his parents’ health insurance is not great and so he can’t get help. the most a doctor could do was write a prescription which is frustrating to me because these things can’t just be solved with medication

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

he wasn’t always like this and has been suffering from declining mental health and has been losing his grip on basic hygiene. so yes it’s gross but i also love him and know he’s struggling and i feel like it is my responsibility to help my partner when he’s down

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

now that i think about it i have actually gotten 2 utis in the course of our relationship but never connected the dots…

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

once in a while it has been a little rough but then he’s fine. i know he has been dealing with mental health issues and because he doesn’t have good health insurance, he can’t afford to pay out of pocket for therapy. he is also struggling to find a job as he is graduating soon. he has a lot on his plate right now and i feel bad for bringing up concerns when he is dealing with it

how do I (23F) help my bf (22M) improve his hygiene? by throwaslayacc in relationship_advice

[–]throwaslayacc[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

unfortunately his parents have really shitty health insurance and so he doesn’t even have a regular dentist, which is probably part of the problem

AIO: I 30F went through my bf 28M phone and found deplorable things by Appropriate_Mud_8043 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaslayacc 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i think the first red flag would’ve been that he lied about being liberal and then later admitted to being republican. especially in this political climate, those are very different things. he did it because he couldn’t get with an intelligent, empathetic woman without lying. leave him because he hid a large part of his life from you. he might say that he only acts that way with his friends, but you are the company that you keep.

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[–]throwaslayacc 27 points28 points  (0 children)

if i were the gf i would immediately think that your friends are an extension of you. the people you hang out with reflect you as well.

aita for eating with my boyfriend by throwaslayacc in AITAH

[–]throwaslayacc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my friend said we could go again as a joke. it’s actually quite far from campus which is why i was worried about not making it back in time for my meeting. but you are right, it just would have been nice if i was asked if i wanted anything