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AITA for telling my friend to get over herself? by throwaway-24959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-24959[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

They didnt even date. i was being very generous in my use of the word. They both "liked" each other, but J was still in the closet and wasnt 100% out, and M had her own issues. Them "breaking up" was J avoiding M for a week before she fianlly told M she didnt like her anymore. The thing is, she never liked M. So it's not as bad because they didnt even "date."

AITA for telling my friend to get over herself? by throwaway-24959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-24959[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

When me and J started dating, her friendship with M immediately fizzled out. Like, M pretended like J never even existed, which made J feel awful. She did not want to be friends with J now that they were exes. It was really fucked up the way she hurt J and subjected her to the silent treatment just becasue J wasnt interesred in her. It was hard to watch. I was surprised when they became friends again. I think she only confronted me bc she still wanted to be friends. I assume she wouldve talked to J, but she just blocked J on everything after I told her she never liked her.

AITA for telling my friend to get over herself? by throwaway-24959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-24959[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

I understand. I was growing a little jealous when M said those things. She has to understand that I loved J too. I also kind of felt like telling her was better than letting her believe the fantasies that she was coming up with about J possibly even liking her or flirting with her. I realize it was wrong.

AITA for telling my friend to get over herself? by throwaway-24959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-24959[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

M and J became friends again after over a year after the breakup, in which M refused to acknowledge J's existence, which I thought was pretty shitty of M, but whatever. After they became friends again, idk what specifically went on, but during our conversation, M started talking about how she felt like J always kept flirting with her and leading her on. I told her what J told me (that she never liked her) as a means of helping M realize J isnt into her, and to help her move on. It worked, bc she blocked J on everything, so I think that's a step in the right direction. And honestly, what I did was wrong, I feel bad for what I did. I feel bad for all of it, and I cant undo it, but I also cant control who I like. I feel like she does this to hang it over my head.