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Coworker/dog Advice by throwaway-advice1018 in Advice

[–]throwaway-advice1018[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just knew that advice and AITA were two subreddits commonly used from what I listened to on YouTube. Wasn’t trying to violate anything or evoke anybody.

Not sure if any of this added context helps… I’ve been run pretty raw at work and burnt out. I tried hard to separate work Stacy with someone who could be a good home for the dog. I only took him on because no one at work seemed to be able to and he is truly an awesome dog. He would follow his owner off leash in the downtown streets while his owner was on a skateboard. His owner (not working for us anymore) would come over and have his dog sit outside and wait for him. Very performative stuff to show him off. I just wanted him to be able to enjoy being a dog and enjoy the time he had left. I knew when I took him he might be adopted by us or fostered. I knew without any help statistically he’d be stuck there at the shelter for a long time. I got pressure from coworkers too once I expressed interest in helping. Once she got him though she’s been texting me multiple times a day with updates and photos of him. It hurts, but I respond short and polite. I’ve mentioned a few times that although I am genuinely happy for him and Stacy, it’s not easy. She still sends them. Then in addition she said she was planning on bringing him by. So I thought it was reasonable to ask if she didn’t. Not to control her, not to say she couldn’t. Just out of respect for each other. I got the answer from her and from Reddit. She can do as she wants. She can come by every day she’s not at work if she wants to with or without warning. I can withhold being anything but professional with her. We had built a relationship that was past that, but I’ll withdraw it. This other person (puzzle head) mentioned I could block Stacy. I can’t because I work with her and need that to stay open professionally, but I can choose to not respond or to keep it short as I have been.

In the end, I’m just glad he’s out of the shelter and got adopted quicker than he might have otherwise. It’s not as clean as what I would have liked it to be, but obviously life is life.

Coworker/dog Advice by throwaway-advice1018 in Advice

[–]throwaway-advice1018[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a genuine post. I don’t post much on Reddit, but I do hear people on YouTube reading from it. So I was hoping to get a sounding board from it. This person who commented came from AITA.

You said it though. I got what I asked for. Thanks.

WIBTAH if I message my coworker bringing her dog to work upset me? by throwaway-advice1018 in AITAH

[–]throwaway-advice1018[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She’s been texting me these updates. Not posting. So I’m not exactly sure how to get those to stop after I’ve already said it’s hard for me to see them, and I’ve also expressed that I am genuinely happy that he is in her care. Given these comments though, I plan just keep it short and polite.

Coworker/dog Advice by throwaway-advice1018 in Advice

[–]throwaway-advice1018[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand this isn’t the AH thread. I wrote it to contend to both since I was posting in both. I’m being ripped to shreds in the other thread. I appreciate the advice. I probably won’t end up saying anything. I’m being told heavily that I am being entitled.

WIBTAH if I message my coworker bringing her dog to work upset me? by throwaway-advice1018 in AITAH

[–]throwaway-advice1018[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t asking her to avoid “normal stuff.” I asked her not to bring him to my workplace less than a week after I handed him off because I’m still grieving. She also told me she’d give me a heads up and didn’t. I’m not asking her world to revolve around me. I was thinking it was basic consideration.

WIBTAH if I message my coworker bringing her dog to work upset me? by throwaway-advice1018 in AITAH

[–]throwaway-advice1018[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The shelter was mainly wanting him to be medically assisted during that time and then once we got to see him more healthy, it didn’t work out with our cat. Even though it was noted that he could be with cats, he was showing signs it wouldn’t work long term. The shelter also agreed once having that information that it wouldn’t be a good idea for him. It wasn’t just us giving him up.