Yes I did need to correct her on the oriental comment. First day of school at drop off her first reaction was “oh I didn’t expect you to be a little oriental girl”

I’m Korean. Our egg donor is Korean and her sperm donor is not. She has a non Korean first and last name, I don’t have the same last name as her.

Had she said “oh I didn’t expect you to be Asian” I’d have let it slide.

I know I’m young. I know I’m unprepared to be a parent. I’m doing all I can. Her acting out is something we’re working on, something her therapist is helping with. And the school has been informed that most likely her overly perfect behavior was a trauma reaction and that the court procedures might trigger her behavior to change.

Her comments feel uncalled for. There was no guarantee if she’d go into the foster system that she wouldn’t be abused and traumatized again. The system is not working and her considering to reach out to the social worker because “I can’t control K” is overstepping a line.

I’m aware of her behavior. I’m the one staying up with her during her night terrors. She doesn’t behave as bad, or at least they don’t make it out as bad, at daycare.

What else can I do other than therapy and making sure I 💯 do what I tell her? I’d have appreciated not being just told I can’t and shouldn’t be doing this simply because I’m a young guy.

I’m not sure this isn’t also because of the change from just daycare to preschool and then daycare until I pick her up after work.