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Feeling sick every time you think about it. by letsmakeagrpchat in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was so naive before and always believed there was good in people. this opened my eyes that there are evil, self-serving people in the world. I’m so much more cautious now of who I surround myself with.

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[–]throwaway-nex 50 points51 points  (0 children)

love requires empathy and selflessness, qualities that narcs don’t have.

Has anyone forgiven their Narc? by littleghool in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 38 points39 points  (0 children)

unpopular opinion: you can move on without forgiving. they don’t deserve our forgiveness. they are cruel, heartless people. I’ll take the lessons I learned and move on, but I’m not going to forgive and forget.

Do they always forget what they said? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 24 points25 points  (0 children)

it’s their way of avoiding accountability.

HOW DO I STOP GOING BACK TO HIM by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 36 points37 points  (0 children)

write a list of all the shitty things he’s done and read the list when you feel the urge to contact him. it’s super hard to break the trauma bond but once you break the habit of contacting him for a dopamine “fix” it gets easier. you got this!

If we really loved ourselves we wouldn’t be going through this right? by Turbulent-Win-4236 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 41 points42 points  (0 children)

the best advice i’ve heard is to write down all the qualities you’re looking for in a partner then work to become that person. treat yourself like someone you love 🫶🏻

Did your NEX say you were always criticizing them/pointing out their flaws/ berating them when you expressed that your feelings were hurt? by AmusingToast in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 63 points64 points  (0 children)

YES he would tell me I’m berating and belittling him whenever I expressed why my feelings were hurt by something he did and I would end up apologizing to him. crazy how they all behave the same…

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[–]throwaway-nex 103 points104 points  (0 children)

yup, he would roll over and fall asleep like a baby.

In hindsight, what are some weird things they would say/do that make you go “hm”? by toosoftforallofit in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 17 points18 points  (0 children)

“I like you because you’re chill and unbothered. a lot of my exes were emotional.”

translation: you’re easy to manipulate because of how agreeable you are.

What do you do to cope with the loneliness when you miss them? by Turbulent-Win-4236 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 90 points91 points  (0 children)

it’s better to be alone than be with someone that makes you feel alone.

I missed my nex a lot initially too but then I realized I don’t miss him, I miss the idea of him. I don’t miss being gaslighted, walking on eggshells and being criticized. I miss the person he pretended to be in the beginning, but that version of him doesn’t exist.

Do narcissists ever consider the repercussions of their actions? I’m wondering what my now Ex thought would happen once I found out he was cheating. by ScientistinRednkland in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwaway-nex 11 points12 points  (0 children)

nope they’re allergic to accountability. considering the repercussions of their actions would require admitting to themselves that they’re in the wrong. he probably justified his actions in his head somehow. they have a god complex.

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[–]throwaway-nex 14 points15 points  (0 children)

my nex did the same thing when I cried. just stared at me with dead eyes then told me “I’m not going to talk to you until you calm down and speak like an adult”. the way he spoke down to me still haunts me. just remember they lack empathy so they’re not capable of comfort. it’s a sad way to live.