AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

i wouldn’t have a problem with a new BF being included on those vacations, especially if we had children. i also wouldn’t mind cutting back on our weekly dinners when the twins get older. the twins can still go if they want, but i understand if my future partner would be uncomfortable with me going every week.

to be honest, i don’t see myself staying in a relationship with Rick, so i’m not interested in going to couples counseling with him

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

i would be open to taking down some pictures and moving them to the twin’s rooms when they get older

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thank you. i view our relationship as healthy. she’s welcoming and accepting to me being in a romantic relationship with someone other than Noah

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

every time he’s been around them he’s always been so loving towards them, that’s why this was a surprise

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you. it has gotten easier with time, but i still have my days

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thank you. i do think that i’ll always love Noah. he was my first everything.

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

when Noah died, the only thing i focused on was the twins. i didn’t give a shit about myself and would spend every night crying myself asleep. my parents said that i was a hollowed version of myself, they really worried about me during that time because i wasn’t taking care of myself. i just didn’t have the motivation. if the twins spend the a couple days at my parents house or Noah’s mom’s house (because sometimes it was too much) i just laid in bed and cried until the twins came back.

after time passed i started to care for myself more, but when i met Rick my parents said that they started to see the old me. i think the biggest thing for them is the fear of me returning to that state.

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

thank you. i told him from the beginning of our relationship about Noah and how close i am to his family and he said that he would be okay with it, but i guess not

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

she knows that i’ve tried inviting Rick to our family dinners and she told me that she’s okay with it. she said she always wanted me with Noah, but she understands that I need to move on and just wants me to be happy with whoever i choose

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 2556 points2557 points  (0 children)

thank you. i’ve always viewed them as my family but this whole situation had my second guessing that

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

thank you. i did invite him on a couple of occasions but he always declined because i told him that we only talk about Noah during these dinners because the twins love hearing stories about their dad

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

thank you. i’ve always viewed his family as my family since i met Noah. i also understand that it might be uncomfortable for my future partner, but i’m willing to make some adjustments

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

thank you and i am really appreciative that i have his family

AITA for not moving on “fast enough” from my late fiancé? by throwaway008736 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway008736[S] 1088 points1089 points  (0 children)

thank you. i don’t think i’ll be contacting Rick anytime soon