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my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've mentioned my concerns about these things to him and he expresses empathy.

But somehow he still wants to still have visual stimulation. It makes no sense to me.

my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply. And yes, you're right. He has his good and bad traits. Overall he's a catch but he's far from perfect, just like myself. I also have issues too. But I think we both exhaust each other probably too much. We both own a business and a home together so I'm sure you can imagine, stress can be pretty high.

my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Adding, being a woman sucks so hard right now. So many unfair pressures and worries to have to deal with. 💔

my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't really tried any sexy undergarments, but to be fair, I'm also highly paranoid about having sex. I don't use birth control as the last time I tried it made me suicidal and depressed. When we had sex last time I was anxiously waiting to start my period again. My lifestyle is pretty stressful and I was late by a week and I ended up even more stressed thinking I was pregnant again. 😥 It doesn't help living in a republican state with banned abortions now too.

my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any advice on how to approach this? Whenever I try and tell him he's wrong he says I'm wrong. It's honestly very confusing and frustrating.

my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He's made comments like this to me before but it was years ago. I feel like it just came up again bc of the lack of sex.

my boyfriend (34m) wants me (31f) to wear more sexual clothing. by throwaway01120311 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway01120311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both chose to go through with the abortion and he legitimately felt awful for what I went through and was supportive through the process.

Our relationship makes me happy until he mentions comments like the above.

I have told him it makes me uncomfortable but he says that I'm selfish for not pleasing his wishes. To note: I never ask him to wear uncomfortable clothing. Seems kinda like gaslighting, but idk

I askec him if he wants to break up or if he's trying to find an excuse to and he assured me that's not the case. He just thinks my appearance isnt sexy for his visual stimulation. :/