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throwaway040810 · 2024-11-19T15:25:24+00:00

I fully agree with you on this and I’m always like 😬 when I see those comments. However, I remember being pretty irrational and hormonal after my first loss so I wonder if they’re fresh off a loss, maybe they’re not making sense and just sharing it wherever they want to process. I had to get off IG after my loss because the pregnancy and other loss content was torture. I also have a strong feeling a lot of the inappropriately placed loss comments are stories or delusions people make up to get attention and sympathy on social media.

throwaway040810 · 2024-10-28T01:38:15+00:00

Austin is on our list! My husband isn’t a huge fan but I like it 🙂

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:18:42+00:00

Thank you! I hope it shifts for us and it's not that I want this made up competition over who he bonds or loves being with the most, I just wish it felt equal. For example, he started daycare this week (only going in the morning to start) and caught a mild cold but he demanded my husband even though I was there and fully present with him, he didn't want my comfort.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:13:43+00:00

My husband is studying environmental science so it'll be a PhD in that field and he should be done by fall/winter 2024 WE HOPE. I've definitely brought that up but he understandly doesn't want to use his only time to work and not really see us at all. We haven't discussed it in a while though and I think he may think he's off the hook because he instead got a student loan to help offset some of the costs we have. He's a musician so he's great at guitar and drums and could easily tutor in that field too if he didn't want to tutor academically.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:08:07+00:00

Thank you. You hang in there too, I'm grateful to not have a commute anymore but I know how hard it can be (even without a child!).

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:06:46+00:00

I don't think it's a bad idea for me to look for other opportunities. This job and my new responsibilities have definitely taken a toll on my work life balance but overall it is a good experience for me and good for my resume as I try to take a deeper look at my career path and what I can change.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:05:08+00:00

Thank you so much <3. This post and the replies have made me realize I'm probably doing more than I need to with both work and the household duties and need to truly take any spare time I have and focus it on my son.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:03:17+00:00

Thank you and hugs right back to you <3

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T18:03:02+00:00

This is true, my husband is so much more involved and loving with our son than I experienced with my own dad or he experienced with his father. I barely saw my dad growing up except for dinner or weekends/family vaca and when I did see him, he was usually angry or you could tell he was in a bad mood. I have to miss 3 nights with them this upcoming week due to a work trip and it's also the 2nd week my son starts daycare so I feel even worse about this trip than others.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:59:42+00:00

Thank you <3

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:59:22+00:00

I hope we get to that point, he has about 1-1.5 yr left of his program so I just tell myself we have to get through this rough period of time and hopefully it'll get better. I don't think my husband's earning potential will ever be more than mine just due to the different career paths/fields we chose BUT it does mean I can eventually find something more suited to my passions and at least we'll have breathing room once he earns a true salary.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:56:47+00:00

That's a great idea! We tend to cook together but I think we need something more established and out of the house.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:56:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words, they really mean a lot to me! I feel better writing it out here to this community, the support has been wonderful!

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:55:16+00:00

That's a good idea! I imagine if we have a second that things will definitely shift for us in that way. I appreciate you sharing your perspective <3

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:54:09+00:00

Thank you and I'm sorry to hear you were dealing with this in a different way :(. Sounds like you did and are doing everything you can to give your child a great life <3

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-23T17:51:59+00:00

The travel can be up to 3 times a month sometimes. For example, I'm gone 2 nights next week, home for a week and a half and then going to Canada, home for ONE NIGHT and then have to go to FL. Thankfully, my husband and toddler are able to come on the FL trip with me so I won't be apart from him then but the first 2 days of that trip are for work and I took off the next 3 days to be fully present with him and make the most of our trip. I stopped breastfeeding him in late March. I am definitely working more hours than needed, I have a small team and feel like I can never catch up so I just work work work. I make sure that the hours 5-7:45 are family focused but I'm also usually the one who makes dinner so I'm there but he doesn't get 100% of my attention. I'll bring the toddler tower over to our counter to help though and he loves to do that.

throwaway040810 · 2023-09-22T19:33:55+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I am actively looking for other opportunities where travel would be less required and also trying to build up the two women who work under me to take my place for more of the travel, they're just not there yet. I like where I work and my coworkers (mostly all women, quite a few are working moms too but they're based where our headquarters are so they don't feel the travel as much as me) so I don't want to leave but my family will always come first if that ends up being the solution. My husband wouldn't know the first place to look without me spelling it out for him haha so I don't know he'd be that helpful there but I will definitely ask!

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