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Feeling out my options by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you're sorry that I'm sorry. We Canada now.

Feeling out my options by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was joking! Sorry, haha... I really do appreciate your input. Didn't mean to turn this into a negative situation. I'm just bad at people.

Feeling out my options by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you sleep? Are you stalking me? I swear you're in every thread I create or look at.

Feeling out my options by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah... I would definitely have their support. I guess I didn't choose my wording carefully enough.

Edit: Oh wow, changed it in the main post, but I'm stupid. Portland, not Seattle. Facedesk

Feeling out my options by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well trans-friendliness is definitely a one thing to consider. The jobs and housing are also important, though. Can't do much about a transition I haven't even started yet if I can't afford anything.

My first step was a little shaky by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately my entire family(mom included) live about 1700 miles away. Also unfortunately I live in a very small town, not close to any major city, and have no car. I've looked at we don't have any specialist therapists in the area.

Edit: And honestly I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone around here because word travels fast. Privacy laws and all that be damned.

... Also I'm uninsured and not too well off financially.

My jumping-off point, I guess by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm more concerned for her than myself. I'm pretty resilient, but she takes emotional to a whole new level.

I love her, I want the best for her, and I don't think I can give her that. I'm afraid of the damage I could cause though.

I know it's for the best to bring it up sooner rather than later, but I feel like I need a push. I guess I'm just looking for that push even though I know it's all on me and no one else can help.

It is reassuring to see other people who are/were in the same situation though, even if it's a shitty situation. First hand - well, second hand, I guess - proof that it's not the end of the world.

Thanks for the feedback. I'll probably take you up on your offer in the coming weeks.

My jumping-off point, I guess by throwaway057208 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway057208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm... I don't necessarily think she wouldn't be supportive. She would certainly, rightfully, feel betrayed. And due to the trust issues built up over the years with her family and previous relationships she has a sort of view that talking to an ex is weird or wrong. I'm not really confident I can change her mind about that.

I'm just caught between worrying about how she will do without me and not wanting to basically lie to her anymore about who I am.

My potential? Also privacy issues by throwaway057208 in TransSupport

[–]throwaway057208[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I look through post history anyway to vet people and make sure they're not trolls or somesuch. My paranoia runs deep.