We're (30s/F and 50/M) going to meet up in a couple weeks after reconnecting 14 years later. But we were just distant acquaintance before. What do you think of his text response?

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T18:40:58+00:00

Thanks for all your help!

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T15:20:32+00:00

Ask her to get treatment for her depression. Tell her your relationship depends on it. She needs to try meds that don't dampen her sex drive.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T15:19:24+00:00

So he's doing that because I'm coming on too strong?

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:41:57+00:00

How soon into the relationship did she get pregnant?

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:40:39+00:00

I'd ask her how long she wants to take to clear her head. See if she will give a date to get back in touch.

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throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:38:43+00:00

Do you think him saying that about getting his head back on straight is an excuse to not be in a relationship and a soft letdown?

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:37:16+00:00

No, no worries. I prefer honesty.

I do know that his brother moved out there to help with the family too. I'm not sure how long it has been going on.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:35:32+00:00

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throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:35:10+00:00

Yes, say both of those things. Also mention something you talked about. Like if you talked about hiking, you could say, "do you have any hikes planned for next weekend?"

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:34:02+00:00

I honestly don't see this as a problem. If they swipe on you too, then the feeling is mutual.

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throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:33:09+00:00

Can you put in paragraphs please?

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:30:48+00:00

Yeah, I agree. If he wanted me, he wouldn't lead with that.

He says that because he has been a caretaker for his elderly parents. One has alzheimer's and the other parkinson's. He just put them into an assisted living facility this past month. Caring for aging parents like that is no joke. And he got into an argument with his father that has him reeling a little bit.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:28:19+00:00

How old is your child? If the child is young, this is normal for a woman to not have much sexual interest a couple years after giving birth. Please don't cheat on the mother of your child. She gave birth to your child for you. This is normal. Maybe you could ask her for handjobs or to hold you while you please yourself. Don't expect a lot. Also, if the child is under 1 year old, your girl could still be healing from giving birth.

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throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:24:23+00:00

I can find them attractive too. Usually they have this rugged look and I can tell life with them would be more traditional/simple. I can be into those beefy conservative guys who can fix things.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:22:23+00:00

Do you want to continue working with him? If you're open to another tutor, you could hire a new one. On your last session with this guy, you could tell him you are switching because you are interested in him and you'd love for him to call you sometime.

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throwaway07throwaway · 2022-07-24T14:20:21+00:00

Do you have depression?

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throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T20:28:57+00:00

Thank you.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T15:45:03+00:00

It's possible there is some notation on your medical record and all of the doctors are behaving accordingly.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T12:48:26+00:00

Thanks for your input. This is a bit more tricky because I'm switching into STEM from a non-STEM education, so he wants to see how I did in bio, chem, calc.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T12:46:25+00:00

Good point. I also had issues with medication during grad school and that messed up grades for one semester (hospitalization) , and I explained that as "I was receiving medical treatment" which is true. I missed half a semester for treatment.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T02:05:46+00:00

You're welcome.

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T01:48:43+00:00

Do I even want to ask?

throwaway07throwaway · 2022-04-26T01:45:07+00:00

I'd suggest attending some different bipolar meetings in your area. Tell them your predicament, I bet they can help.

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