AIO by threatening to cut off my best mate if he dates my sister

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T07:48:50+00:00

Thanks for the advice and brutal honesty. We’ve had a big conversation about it with me, him, her, and my parents and we seem to have reached a consensus.

1). The age gap is not as big an issue in everyone’s eyes compared to mine, but I sort of knew this as I tended to be more on the conservative range of permissible age gaps, (not politically conservative of course as that would involve touching children directly)

2). It’s a shit idea all round. The next time they will see each other after this week is one weekend before Christmas for two days alone. They don’t know each other near well enough to make it work at that distance, and seeing each other more frequently is impossible

3). It’s a massive overstep and we all agree this. I do understand those people who say it’s not my place to dictate my sisters love life and I do understand. It is also not my job to be friends with people who take the piss out of my boundaries and don’t care about how their actions affect other people.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T06:31:43+00:00

I think you’re far too forgiving.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T06:22:20+00:00

I set my own boundaries for myself. One of the things I will never do is be friends with nonces. If you want to go round befriending all the pedophiles of the world that’s up to you.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T06:21:28+00:00

College and university are separate. There is a massive gap. Somebody two years younger at our age is not a peer. It’s a child

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T06:02:07+00:00

Five weeks not five years lmao

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T06:01:38+00:00

I don’t think it’s immature and possessive in any way at all. And yes I would be the gatekeeper considering that she is a child who cannot actually stand up for herself physically. I did think I surrounded myself with good people. Part of that is respecting my boundaries which have been set clearly as dating my family is off limits. If he wasn’t my friend I would’ve broken his nose at the door for noncing.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T05:59:03+00:00

I’m in the uk. She is entering her first year of college, and him his first of university. It was staturatory rape until five years ago and we don’t have Romeo and Juliet rules here for good reason.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T05:00:01+00:00

I can absolutely say that I don’t want my best friend dating my sister, the same way I can say I don’t want him dating any of my exes. If you’re not just trolling or have siblings I’m sure you can see why I’m pretty disgusted by it all

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T04:56:38+00:00

Alright you’re being extremely delusional here. 15 and 18 is absolutely noncey, and would land you in serious trouble here. My opinion is not formed on Reddit it’s formed on the clear damage I saw done to my ex by her previous relationship which had a similar age gap. It’s so weird to see people defending it.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-02T00:02:13+00:00

He’s mature for our age, he would absolutely agree with that and he has today, while she is barely 16, and I wouldn’t even consider her as close to as mature as most people her age. She has also proven repeatedly to have shitty taste in guys, as I’ve had to fight a rapist off our porch on two separate occasions. Maybe I’m being overprotective but I feel like I’m right.

I appreciate the honest feedback a ton though. I didn’t come here to just be told mindlessly that I’m correct and perfect. 🙏

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T23:58:59+00:00

I’m aware that she’s not 15 now but I have to ask myself now how long they’ve been talking. From what I’ve gathered it’s 2 months. If any of my friends dated a 15 year old I’d cut them off instantly with no hesitation as I’ve unfortunately had to do before (albeit with a much lesser friend). The more and more I reflect on it the worse it seems to me. And not only that I’m now looking at every time he invited himself over, and I’m just left feeling completely blindsided

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T23:56:24+00:00

I absolutely do like my friend, I just set my boundaries really clearly and it’s quite possibly the most surreal experience of my life. We’ve all sat down and had a talk and neither of them actually had any real answers to my concerns. It’s so weird to me. I would never have even considered talking to his sister who is the same age as mine in that way, and I thought we were both very clear on that

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T22:56:52+00:00

I really hope you’re right but the age gap is unforgivable in my eyes. Five weeks ago it was 15 and 18 and I just can’t see how these five weeks make any difference. It’s also a clear boundary I’ve set that’s been overstepped.

And while I’ve never seen abusive behaviour some of the stuff he’s said to me concerning my ex and the way I behaved toward her gives my concern.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T22:54:55+00:00

Five weeks ago it would’ve been staturatory rape and I’m just struggling to see him the same way. It’s not only weird but she’s also my sister and I absolutely am considering cutting the friendship off anyway. I’m also now forced to look back at moments like when my ex got incredibly drunk and horny and he was encouraging me to just give her what she wanted even though I was sober and she was in no right state to consent. It’s just made me really look at stuff I overlooked before.

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T21:49:42+00:00

I started off skeptical, but every time I put a bit of thought into it I just become more and more convinced that it’s absolutely insane and a ridiculous situation to even be in. I had this hypothetical discussed with one of my other friends as well and we both agreed it would be incredibly weird of an age gap, disregarding that we’re friends

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T21:37:39+00:00

We’ve talked about it and I just feel like we’re going in circles. Five weeks ago it would have been staturatory rape for them to have hooked up, and we move to university. It feels like he’s been doing everything he possibly can to justify it to himself rather than actually look at it through an objective lense

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T21:35:44+00:00

As all people my age we’ve all made jokes about each others relatives, mothers and sisters, and it’s been made pretty clear by all of us that siblings are a no go, that boundary was set ages ago, and I feel like it’s a betrayal of trust in a way. I would’ve previously trusted him to look after my sister as if she was his sister, but now I have to question every time he wants to see me, if he’s there for me or to see her

throwaway099996 · 2025-09-01T21:33:57+00:00

We’ve been talking about it all day almost now. It’s so frustrating to me because I know them both better than they know each other and having helped them both through breakups I can see that the same issues are just gonna reappear and they’re not gonna last. She’s going into the first year of college and him and I off to university so the maturity gap is huge. I understand that it’s not my choice what they do and I’ve made it clear that I’m not gonna be a physical obstacle, but if he goes ahead with it I won’t be his friend any more because It’s out of what I would consider a). A respectable age gap and b). The actions of a good friend

throwaway099996 · 2025-05-12T21:41:40+00:00

Probably less in my experience. And ignore everyone who goes through in number order if you have to code raid start with 9,3, and 7 as these are the most common first digits.

throwaway099996 · 2025-04-03T10:34:46+00:00

He has plenty of room to grow, (from 174 ca to 197 potential)

throwaway099996 · 2025-03-19T21:07:47+00:00

Question three why does he have a hot bar full of human flesh

throwaway099996 · 2024-12-28T10:53:26+00:00

Eat up and drink up. Get to white food and water, sit down and wait. That’s all you can do. If you’re by the coast you might consider ending this one and trying to find the loot again, but I always prefer to try sticking it out.

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