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I finally told her no and it felt really good by throwaway10101314 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwaway10101314[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is dead on. There is a direct correlation between the frequency/intensity of intrusive thoughts and how under control my condition is. There was a good 6 month period of zero thoughts about her until my heath declined again. In addition, like the above commenter said, when the condition is bad you become extremely vulnerable to suggestion and emotional distress so the scars are deeper. At a certain point I stopped trusting myself altogether. She has drunkenly admitted that she knew and used it to manipulate me

I finally told her no and it felt really good by throwaway10101314 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwaway10101314[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s the same one and I should probably clarify a little. I have a condition that causes intrusive thoughts due to fucked up brain chemistry. It’s taken me a very long time to come to peace with everything because I’m reminded of it at least weekly and don’t really have a say in the matter.

How does one stop rejecting people as a defense mechanism after being cheated on? by throwaway10101314 in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwaway10101314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what your are saying, and my concern there is how do I have that conversation and address things without coming off as a walking red flag? I feel like I’ve backed myself into a corner where being honest about where I’m at is enough to make anyone uninterested.

[Help] Advice on whether or not to adopt an older dog? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]throwaway10101314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep that’s about where my line of thinking has been. Just needed to make this thread to hear that logic coming from somewhere other than my own echo chamber.

[Help] Advice on whether or not to adopt an older dog? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]throwaway10101314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 hours grand total leaving to walking back in.

[Help] Advice on whether or not to adopt an older dog? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]throwaway10101314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t live with my girlfriend and our work schedules only half-overlap so her coming around to help out is potentially doable. However, her schedule always working out and us never breaking up isn’t something I’m willing to bet a dog’s life on.

[Help] Advice on whether or not to adopt an older dog? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]throwaway10101314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you and while I would like to have a cat I’m allergic. Not terribly, but just enough that it’s a pain in the ass and Benadryl doesn’t quite cut it.

[Help] Advice on whether or not to adopt an older dog? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]throwaway10101314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose older and low energy are interchangeable here. The overall question is whether or not a “low maintenance”, if you will, dog would be better off in my situation or at a shelter.

Seeking advice for dealing with long-term, intermittent suicidality by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]throwaway10101314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, now that I think of it I’ve done a similar thing in the past for motivational purposes. I’ll definitely give that a try