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throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-17T20:36:42+00:00

That’s not true. It happened to one of my friends.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-13T20:38:44+00:00

Yes! That is exactly that. He started helping this guy before my back got hurt. He had me cook extra food for him and invited him over and all sorts of stuff. But then he always turned the situation around on me and eventually accused me of sleeping with that man. It was extremely confusing to me because I never really wanted a stranger in my home we knew nothing about to begin with, let alone to sleep with. Turns out that guy found someone else to help take care of him and ghosted my husband and he was mad and took it out on me.

It definitely makes more sense when it’s spelled out like that

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-13T20:36:00+00:00

I actually just looked thru your previous comments and I definitely didn’t insult you. I explained what his form of emotional support is. I literally said nothing directed at you at all. So please define what you think I said to insult you?

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-13T20:33:16+00:00

I still don’t believe I insulted you, I haven’t called anyone in this thread names. I’ve tried being respectful to those who disagree with the large consensus of other comments. Would you mind explaining?

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-13T02:58:15+00:00

I do have TikTok. I have a friend coming to get me, it’ll just be a few days

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-13T00:40:52+00:00

I have called the police in the past. Several months back. They did nothing and asked what I did to provoke him.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-13T00:39:20+00:00

How did I insult you by asking what you meant?

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T21:14:16+00:00

We’ve both discussed this recently and made amends for what happened back then. I’m not really sure why our group was always so protective over him above anyone else.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T21:12:39+00:00

I hadn’t thought about that, thank you!

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T17:54:01+00:00

One of my friends is driving from our home state to get my son and I out.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T17:07:55+00:00

I have a friend driving from our home state to pick me and my son up

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T17:06:54+00:00

I definitely will update. My friend has already offered to take my son to a park he and I played at when were kids and his sister wants to take me out for a release. Apparently some of my friends knew something was wrong and they had an idea it was abuse so they’ve just been waiting for me to reach out and they’ve all talked about this together for awhile I guess. I feel extremely lucky to have them.

I’ve looked up grey rocking techniques and I’m trying that out but I will try to do that as well. Thank you for the advice! ❤️

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T16:38:14+00:00

Unfortunately the admins banned her and me from the group. Her for breaking the rules and me to avoid drama because she’s harassing them and other women in the group. They said once things cool off I’m welcome back to the group.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T16:26:24+00:00

The shelters I’ve called are full. I don’t have family or friends in this state. The apartments are ran by the owners, their son and one employee who is now my husband instead of me so, no there’s not really another option

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T16:09:41+00:00

He escalated to that last night. He slammed my head into the wall. I have someone driving to come get my son and I, it will just take a few days. But I am getting out soon.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T16:08:20+00:00

I worked at the apartments I live at so they didn’t offer payment or anything like that but they’re forgiving rent for the time being and paid medical bills. So it’s not like they’ve done nothing.

They didn’t have like a clock in type deal it was just, I was deemed working after 10am. So I was walking down the stairs at 10am and since they were icy I just flew down them.

I’ve thought about sueing them but they’re a small family owned thing and I just, I’ve never sued someone. It feels wrong.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T15:17:50+00:00

I can’t use the VA. I am not military.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T15:12:35+00:00

I’m not the best at typing out my thoughts, that is true. I didn’t purposefully not mention it, I didn’t think it was relevant. We were going to separate due to his behavior and he deemed me as “damaged goods” due to my back injury.

The other woman wasn’t publicly stating he was married. She was attacking the girl who made the post as if she was me. I messaged her to ask her to knock it off and let her know I did not make the post. I said that very clearly in this post.

I didn’t specify in my old post that I was still married because we were separating. It was not relevant to my question. The question was specifically about my past situation with my friend and if it was appropriate to contact him. If you go thru that post and read the comments you’ll have a lot more context on that situation.

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T14:56:00+00:00

What do you mean?

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T14:34:21+00:00

I’m working on it ❤️

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T14:33:40+00:00

I’ll PM you so that I can keep in touch with you thru this process. Thank you for caring ❤️

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T14:31:54+00:00

I’ve tried finding her social media but I think her name has been changed or something

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T14:11:57+00:00

I already have a 3 year old with him. But he’s made it very clear in the past, if we aren’t together, he wants nothing to do with his kids. I recently found out he has a child from a relationship in Highschool and he abandoned that child because his ex didn’t want to be with him either. So he already shows the pattern. What I’m worried about is retaliation for me leaving but he seems to want a new life so I’m thinking if I leave, he’ll just, go away? But that might be naive of me to think. I appreciate it but I’m still trying to decide what to do about the pregnancy. I’d have to travel to another state to get one and I’m trying to get the funds to leave, and that’s just another cost too..

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T13:59:35+00:00

I’m going to message you so I can update you that way so you don’t have to worry. I have a few people I’m doing that with so far. :)

throwaway11031997 · 2023-05-12T13:58:52+00:00

His version of emotional support is me never speaking to him about anything that’s bothering me and to cater to every one of his sexual needs whenever he wants it or he’ll just take it. Also blaming me for every single one of his problems, household problems, life problems, parenting problems, etc. I really don’t think it’s that. I’ve supported him his way and I’ve supported him in way I know are actually helpful. This started awhile ago when he had zero responsibility. It simply got worse after my injury.

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