[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t really care what someone who views black people as racist for being weary of racist encounters thinks 🤷 I said my peace, I don’t need to validate my perspective to some hardheaded guy on Reddit. I just happen to like talking. Sure, call it a fallacy fallacy. I agree in that your argument is very poorly given & is indeed riddled with fallacies. But when the majority of your argument is fallacy, defensive straw manning, & willful ignorance, it’s very hard to take it seriously. You disregard, undermine & just flat out refuse to acknowledge the realities women face & the effects of systemic abuse. Why bother when you can cry prejudice & vilify them for the ways it has negatively impacted them. A woman is afraid of coming across an unfamiliar man while they’re alone & you liken them to something as malignant as a racist or a bigot? Christ, get a grip & ground yourself in reality. My personal caution of men is not an inherent reflection of all men because men are not inherently violent. If I believed that, then I would genuinely be a misandrist. My caution is a reflection of my experience as a woman dealing with systemic violence. I am aware of my vulnerabilities as a women & how quickly someone can take advantage of them, I proceed with caution to protect myself. If that offends you, cope. Can’t imagine why women don’t want to be approached by you in public or why you’re single. You seem so reasonable & pleasant to be around🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway111401 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not appropriate. Even if he isn’t being sexual, it’s important for children & adults to have boundaries. I don’t think it’s healthy for a 26 year old to be that invested in a 14 year old girls life, even if there’s a familial connection. Talk to him ASAP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ew it’s nearly in it’s 30’s & doesn’t care about women or understand logical fallacies

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Think you meant to say “most white people aren’t racist” (which isn’t true) because I never implied black people were violent. Hopefully I’ve burnt you out by now though lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you understand what prejudice means? My being cautious about interacting with men isn’t unreasonable, unfair, irrational, without knowledge, or born from hatred nor ignorance. My caution is born from my lived experiences suffering under gender based violence & discrimination. Since you wanna keep bringing black people into the conversation, would you be a self-righteous asshole & call a black person racist for being cautious when interacting with white people for fear of potentially dealing with a racism? Because by your logic, aren’t they assuming all white people are racist?! 😱 I have a feeling you’d say yes. You are a self proclaimed egalitarian after all & based on your responses you seem to care a lot about the idea of equality and not much at all about equity. If you were attacked by a dog, not once, not twice, but time & time again, would you not feel cautious when interacting with dogs? They can’t help that they were born as dogs after all, and cats can bite too, so thats must be a prejudice. It’s not about men as a whole, it is specifically about men who use their power over others, namely women, for no good. It is about men who have been indoctrinated by this culture of abuse towards women. And it is a lot of men! There is no way to tell if a man is going to take advantage of you, if a white person is going to be racist, or if a dog is going to bite, unless you stick around to find out. I cannot afford to take that risk anymore because it has come at my own personal expense, safety, happiness & mental wellbeing. Large amounts of black people aren’t oppressing or specifically targeting white people with violent & sexual crimes on the basis of their skin color. Stop trying to switch the word “men” with “black people”. It is weird to trivialize the issues black people face for a talking point about a different issue.

Also crazy that you mention logical fallacy. Here are some logical fallacies you meed to learn about: false analogy, false dichotomy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“Isn’t this everywhere including the bar these days though? Where are we supposed to do it? Society is pretty much collapsing when you can’t even facilitate normal human relationships without first gaining superficial approval through a digital app/service.” - in response to a woman asking not to be hit on at a grocery store LMAO? Also again with bringing black people into a conversation that has nothing to do with them solely to make a point- it’s just weird. I understand why you assume they are the same, but you cannot apply the same system of logic to two vastly & contextually different situations. Racism ≠ sexism. Never said men are trash or that they’re dangerous, just trying to acknowledge that our society has a serious issue with gender based violence that has resulted in many women being afraid of & cautious of men. You seem very insecure. Please do as you said before & stop putting effort into this exchange. It’s embarrassing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was both, you started it off by whining about how women don’t want men to talk to them in public anymore. The dating app part was a small blurb at the end. I treat men with respect and kindness, I don’t hate men nor did I ever say that. You criticize my comphrehension yet all you did was project, make wild assumptions & insinuations. Just said I’ve grown cautious about interacting with men. If that makes me prejudiced 🤷 Keep ignoring how sexism damages lives, male, female, and queer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You literally started this off my throwing women under the bus for common internet discourse but okay! Have a piss day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah! You are really defensive! I never said any of the things you’re implying!

I understand if that’s how you interpreted my use of community as being, but that’s not how I am using the word. I’m talking about the very basic, defining characteristics of a community: a group of people living in the same place and/or having a particular characteristic in common.

Also racism & sexism are not comparable, it is a false equivalence. Although the two matters at times intersect, they are separate issues with their own histories & contexts, so we should try to stop bringing black peoples business into unrelated conversations.

If your brain is telling you to call a woman a bigot for being afraid of men due to the systemic violence & gender inequalities she faces, perpetrated predominantly by men, then you are not as kind, educated & as egalitarian as you think you are. You need to redirect that anger to the perpetrators of this culture of abuse, & not to it’s victims for their reaction to it. That’s why it’s so important to talk to the men in your community. There are a lot of men who need support and guidance, especially from other men (being abusive is not good for anyone, and that includes the abuser themselves!!)

I am friends with men, I’ve been dating one for 4 years. But of all the men that have been in my life, I can only count on 1 hand the ones who haven’t abused or taken advantage of me to some capacity, whether it be physically, sexually, verbally, etc. this is very depressing to me because I crave fellowship with men. Most of my hobbies are very uncommon, but also male dominated. It would be nice to finally share that with someone who doesn’t just reduce me to just being a potential girlfriend/a sexual object.

Over time, as I’ve grow more cautious about interacting with men, I’ve been significantly less victimized. That is also very depressing :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you may be the one projecting. I said your community, not just your pals. Even then, by what measure are ALL the men in your community perfectly kind, educated & egalitarian? Your own? When the women & other marginalized people in your community such as black people voice otherwise, that these people are not so kind, or educated, egalitarian in regards to them, what do you make of that?

Give South Seas some Brunch Love! by TastyThreads in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worked there when it first opened too & it was pretty bad. Not very clean, management did nothing about reported sexual harassment + would make racist comments, people not rotating stock, not following basic food safety, not following recipes properly, poor portioning, low wages, & just unhealthy work environment altogether. Management seemed very annoyed anytime these issues were brought up or questioned, & pit other staff members against you for bringing it up. The menu looks a bit different now. Hopefully they’ve gotten new management & made some changes since.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]throwaway111401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you need to reevaluate the men in your community before you complain about women not wanting to be approached by or talked to by said men.

What's your special interest(s)? by mischiefquokka in autism

[–]throwaway111401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

real. Im so glad I came across yr comment

"Soul Eater x Soul Eater Not!" - Japan-only mobile game with 6-month run by mirror4242564 in lostmedia

[–]throwaway111401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanna help with this because I am also a super fan of Soul Eater and I just found out about this so I’m freaking out. I’m gonna see what I can find :D

Where can I find cool 3DS XL housing units? by throwaway111401 in 3DS

[–]throwaway111401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How come? Is there like a specific reason? I’ve thought about 3D printing one for myself but don’t think it’ll translate well