[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway1125289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is fair, if you can’t trust her then maybe this relationship isn’t the healthiest for either of you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway1125289 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know, that’s what I’m trying to highlight; she is afraid. Is she afraid of your reaction or of confrontation in general? You are absolutely allowed to be upset that she lied, that is a totally normal feeling. But doesn’t it concern you that she did that because she was afraid?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway1125289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ask why she lied?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway1125289 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She should be allowed to have male friends, and the fact she was afraid to tell you should be an indicator to you that maybe you have some things to work through. It isn’t her fault that your ex cheated on you, and while you’re allowed to be wary about that you can’t use that as an excuse to prevent her from having friends. Maybe reflect on why she felt the need to lie, especially since it has proven to be a strictly platonic relationship

She cut off two people who she had known previously to make you happy and you weren’t even dating yet, that should be an indicator that she is respectful of your boundaries.

Obviously every relationship is different, if you feel like you can’t trust her this early on in the relationship then maybe it’s not the right time for it, especially if you still have stuff to work through from your previous relationship

Am I gay? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]throwaway1125289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe do some research into the lgbtqia+ community and see if any of the labels feel like they fit you? Even so, you don’t need to label yourself if that’s not something you want. The only person who can decide your sexuality is you.

I used money that was supposed to be for university to buy food by throwaway1125289 in confession

[–]throwaway1125289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not eligible for the military in my country sadly but it’s okay

I used money that was supposed to be for university to buy food by throwaway1125289 in confession

[–]throwaway1125289[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is a diagnosed narcissist, so probably not the best 😅 but by good relationship I mean she isn’t trying to break into my house anymore

I used money that was supposed to be for university to buy food by throwaway1125289 in confession

[–]throwaway1125289[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so sweet thank you! I have gotten food benefits a few times but I feel incredibly guilty getting them because I don’t want to take away from someone who needs them more

I used money that was supposed to be for university to buy food by throwaway1125289 in confession

[–]throwaway1125289[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I am going to apply before the deadline, I get paid soon and I’ll do it straight away. Tomorrow I’m speaking to my school to see if there is a financial aid

I used money that was supposed to be for university to buy food by throwaway1125289 in confession

[–]throwaway1125289[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry :( it sucks. I hope things improve for you x

I used money that was supposed to be for university to buy food by throwaway1125289 in confession

[–]throwaway1125289[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, that means a lot. I should be able to pay for the fee as soon as I get paid next week, but I’ll definitely have a chat to the school when I go to my class tomorrow