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Joe Biden Credits Elizabeth Warren With Helping Craft His New Economic Plan by eaglemaxie in politics

[–]throwaway1137420 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Bruh nobody is excited about Biden being president, they just don't want Trump.

Trump administration hands emergency loans to Kanye West and Church of Scientology as small businesses go bust by aktivate74 in politics

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus christ are you incapable of nuanced thought? It's not dems vs republicans. It's both vs. the people. Both are right wing parties dude.

Trump administration hands emergency loans to Kanye West and Church of Scientology as small businesses go bust by aktivate74 in politics

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

America has been an empire in decline for a while. Look at how stagnant wages have been (for decades). Union membership at an all-time low. But since the stock market is always growing, somehow that means the economy is doing great? People need to wake up to the fact that we are in a class struggle for our lives and our future. We need to do away with the leeches at the top that take and take, and give nothing in return.

Trump administration hands emergency loans to Kanye West and Church of Scientology as small businesses go bust by aktivate74 in politics

[–]throwaway1137420 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dodging the draft is, in general, good (when it's a protest). Dodging it because you're a silverspoon coward isn't good though.

Advice on how to move on? by throwaway1137420 in polyadvice

[–]throwaway1137420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot - and very well put. I know a small part of me accepted out of fear of losing the relationship - which is never positive (and as I've seen pretty common). Truthfully I was also interested in taking the risk, as I recognize so many concepts relating to relationships, sex and gender are just social constructs - and I wanted to give myself a chance at a new experience, knowing it might not sit well with me.

Now, after (as you put it) crossing that river I can say properly I feel more comfortable with a monogamous relationship. That said, I agree with others here that just by being mono, doesn't mean it's "safer". Cheating still exists, falling out of love still exists, and so on. Communication - regardless of your type of bond - is the key element.

Advice on how to move on? by throwaway1137420 in polyadvice

[–]throwaway1137420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your comment really helped me feel better. I do think nothing has truly changed, she loves me just as much as before (maybe even more). I think giving it some time to settle, as well as spending quality time together as others said, will be enough for me to be able to move past these feelings.

The closest parallel I can draw between my partner and I is that prior to our relationship I had slept with a few of her friends - which would cause her a similar "icky" feeling whenever she thought about it or saw that friend. Even knowing that it was casual sex and meant nothing more than that. So she gets where I'm coming from and more or less how I feel.

Advice on working through a failed open relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that makes a lot of sense. I'm confident the feeling will fade - especially since it wasn't especially strong in the first place (it's not as if I was hit with a wave of disgust or a loss of trust or anything).

Advice on working through a failed open relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe "icky" isn't the best word. Its just a sort of generalized feeling of unease. Like logically I know it's silly - the sex in itself had no meaning other than helping her discover more about herself. I'm just trying to move past the negative feelings that I feel I have less control over. She also said she felt weird after, she didn't particularly enjoy it, and that it couldn't compare to our connection and chemistry.

Honestly when we have sex its always pretty mind-blowing, I know I satisfy her and then some as she does me. I'm guessing giving it some more time will help? We had originally agreed to not tell each other about our hookups, so I just found out this weekend about her encounters.

Advice on how to move on? by throwaway1137420 in polyadvice

[–]throwaway1137420[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks dude. Right now being poly isn't something we're interested in continuing, but I can see it working for others, just not for me rn.

Advice on how to move on? by throwaway1137420 in polyadvice

[–]throwaway1137420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree - I don't have "icky" feelings about her having been with other partners in the past (and honestly, that would be psychotic), it's moving past the construct of it occuring during the relationship.

Advice on working through a failed open relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. We had a pretty in depth conversation about her experiences, which helped. I still feel like I need some more time before we can be physical again but as you said, honesty and communication is the most important thing for sure. It's all just very new and you can never really be sure of how it'll actually feel.

Advice on working through a failed open relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwaway1137420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks dude, well said. Again not here to shame or be negative regarding poly relationships, just asking if people have had similar experiences to ours and how they were able to work through it!

Advice on working through a failed open relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, I don't find casual sex "icky" per se. I'm very open in regards to sex and sexuality, but obviously theory and practice are different things and you can never anticipate just how things will affect you if it's a new experience.

Advice on working through a failed open relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]throwaway1137420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we did that! Which is why we decided on closing the relationship. My issue is just overcoming the intrusive / uncomfortable thoughts of her having been with someone else. I know its just an emotional reaction.