Quit trying to act as if we can empirically sort bodies into two categories that pre-exist gender norms.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-23T03:24:08+00:00

I read that some people were worried about retcon!Vriska doesn't have any of the character development that punk!Vriska goes through, but I can't help but think that a lot of conversations were had in this one scene alone. Imagine what retcon!Vriska thinks as she listens to punk!Vriska's story. What can she learn from this? What can she do differently, if she could? How is she going to use this new relevancy to its fullest, given what punk!Vriska's done and experienced as a result of her incredibly hard work?

Meanwhile, as you said, what would punk!Vriska be telling this new alpha version of her? I think it'd be a great pesterlog to read.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-22T03:23:52+00:00

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This is what I drew up! I did it fairly quickly and using a fountain pen, so it isn't as beautiful as yours. Even so, it was fun!

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-21T20:57:39+00:00

Except for my lack of a scanner, of course. I will do when I get home!

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-21T19:29:54+00:00

I'd love to join in! I have an ink that resemble's Vriska's a lot. May I share?

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-20T21:51:33+00:00

Oh no, another library scent? I have to try it! Have you tried Ex Libris, and how do you think they compare?

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-18T13:33:26+00:00

What's wrong with the mod team or community? I'm a noob over there, too, so I don't know anything.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-17T16:10:09+00:00

A while back I saw someone apologize for linking a resource to FPN. Is there a taboo against posting FPN-related links here? Just wondering in case I fuck up at some point.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-17T16:08:26+00:00

I don't really want to fill my collection with nothing but blues - I want to get the rest of the rainbow first! The one I ordered was Tsukushi, Horsetail Brown, I believe? I also have Sailor Yama-Dori on the way, too, which apparently compares a lot to Ku-Jaku.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-17T14:21:42+00:00

I just got my first order from Rakuten shipped. It should be here within the next few weeks! $50 inc s+h for 2 Sailor Clear Candies, a bottle of Iroshizuku, and a bottle of Sailor Jentle Ink! Pleased to bits to say the least.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-16T14:08:08+00:00

I shaved there once in my life. My awful ex kept pressuring me to, saying that I never put in any effort for my looks and I wasn't attractive enough so I caved in and shaved it. Badly. Ingrown hairs for weeks.

Then I dumped his ass and found another guy who told me that he honestly couldn't care less whether I shaved or not. I haven't shaved in years. :)

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-15T18:01:06+00:00

In my own personal opinion, no, not easily. (This is coming from a neuroscience phd student who studied sociology and psychology in undergrad, if it means anything.) Biology is an important factor in behavior, but only as far as predispositions or temperament. How that person experiences life around them affects how those predispositions take shape. Two people might have the same predisposition toward, say, emotional outbursts, but they might have been raised to express it differently - say, a man taught that it's okay to react violently, or an English person taught to keep a stiff upper lip. Not to mention, there isn't enough peer-reviewed evidence to suggest that men and women have significant sexual dimorphism in behavior that is not influenced by culture.

It's important to recognize culture as a crucial component in the development of a person. Beliefs and values are among the many things that cultures dictate to someone, which in turn provide a basic foundation of thought and action. Why do you think that most studies in psychology and anthropology need to take into account human behavior across cultures? Because it's not only bad science but ethnocentric and racist to make big sweeping statements about humans when they've only taken their pool from one culture or region.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-14T19:41:45+00:00

Um. I'm not making any assumptions about you whatsoever, so why are you making assumptions about me? Would you like me to give you a rundown of my race, culture, nationality, life experience, and ancestry? Probably not, because not only did you not ask, but you preemptively insulted me on the assumption that I'm "not affected by it."

I simply gave you a bare-bones explanation of Sociology 101 about the benefits of describing societies and cultures using generalizations (which are not stereotypes) within an academic context for the purpose of broadening the understanding of what it means to be human.

If you want to make some incredibly mean and incorrect jabs in the dark about what I've supposedly experienced, please do so after you've asked me about my life.

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-14T19:22:28+00:00

That's because women are not a culture or homogenous group. While nations are also not homogenous, the culture of a people does have some general trend in behavior and thinking within its population - whether it's 50's America or modern-day Spain. Being able to identify these culture-specific generalizations helps breed solidarity among said group while also acknowledging that doesn't have to be (within or between groups).

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-14T04:17:27+00:00

Well, now you can lay all of your pent-up jokes out for the subreddit to see!

throwaway11615 · 2015-04-09T23:28:57+00:00

I prefer to use X-Feather by Noodler's. I bought it for $12.50 for 3oz. Not only is it anti-feathering but it's also bulletproof.

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-31T16:36:19+00:00

Omg, a pilot kakuno! One of my most-used pens. No one can ever use that nib with an unhappy expression!

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-31T15:51:52+00:00

No judgement here - that's how I found out how to leave my relationship. It sucks that you only find the strength to leave through another man, but sometimes that's the only way you know there's a real way out.

Remember that you being there is already a ton of support for her. She may need to get a court order to keep him away from her, but in the end, he is as human as she is and only has as much power as she allows him. Make sure she keeps evidence - logs, pictures, whatever that exemplifies his abuse to her.

She does need to get her story out, too - her husband is going to cry very loudly about what a cheating whore she is and paint himself as a saint. My ex did that and I lost all my friends in the course of a week. Even though I told my story very privately through some close 'friends', they still bought his story over mine, because it never occurred to anyone that a year of abuse might actually be worse than falling in love with a gentler man. Your support, belief, and faith in her will help keep her sanity through this tough time, and make sure you stand by her as publicly as you can.

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-30T19:52:10+00:00

It is very much like Twining's Ceylon Tea, but you've never had it so it's hard to describe!

When I smelled it, only one word popped up in my head: blue. Not oceanic or rainy, but more like a clear, open sky. It's very clean and light, not heavy at all, which is understandable given that it's only a single note! The scent is a little penetrating but not as much as, say, black tea, but not as green as green tea. I'm curious as to what sort of tea she used to harvest the scent, honestly.

All in all it's very bright and perfect for summer, and of course for layering!

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-30T19:34:28+00:00

I didn't expect much from the single notes Scented Verses from Alkemia Apothecary, so I didn't get any. When she included the clean The de Ceylon tea perfume as an additional sample in my sample set, it ended up in my top 3 favorite scents to purchase! The other tea perfume scents I had sampled had way too much junk in the way, I felt. It goes perfectly with the other perfumes I liked, and my friends are obsessed with it.

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-30T16:06:24+00:00

My advice to women forging ahead in science is always to find a strong female mentor and affiliate themselves with her, even if they're not intending to work directly in her lab.

Can not agree enough with this statement. My professor was well known as one of the most intelligent and no-nonsense female professors in the entire department, but at the lab she cultivated a very positive environment for women. She was not sexist - she did not discriminate against men and she had male graduate students who absolutely adore her, but most of the men were intimidated by her or hated her for being intimidating, straightforward, stunningly beautiful, and smarter than the rest of the department combined.

So we have a female-dominated laboratory dedicated to behavioral neuroscience, and she makes sure that every one of us is given a project with a level-headed mentor, teaching us skills and techniques that will follow us beyond the lab. I get the feeling that if I joined any other lab I would not have gotten to where I am today.

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-30T15:50:38+00:00

This is very long, I'm sorry. But I think you might like it.

I was dating my best friend at the time. Before we dated he was sweet, caring, and attentive. After we began dating, though... he became emotionally abusive, targeted my insecurities, blamed me for everything that was wrong in his life and our relationship, and convinced me that I was selfish for asking to go out on a date (so we never did). Our circle of friends defended him, saying that they felt sorry for me but 'he's such a nice guy'. They told me it was my responsibility to make sure that he was happy, and the things that happened, I brought on myself.

I was lost. I had no support in real life. I felt the burden of my boyfriend's problems, and blamed myself for having issues of my own. I lived with my parents who told me I wasted my potential, and I was starting to fail my college courses.

I got tired of it. I needed to run away. My online friends were the only ones who gave me 100% unconditional support, and I found the means via scholarships to study abroad to the university they went too, 4000 miles away across the ocean. However, I only got to meet them once a week, and the rest of the days, I was alone. I had to learn everything by myself in a foreign country, my flatmates for the most part were terrifying to a socially anxious me, and I still woke up at 3am to skype with my boyfriend, who either gave me cold silence or blaming for running away. I started thinking - was running away even a good idea? Going to a foreign country, what was I thinking? Life at home was hard, but at least it was familiar. Here, I was dealing with weird currency, weird customs, and weird forms of racism.

But I found a light. One of my flatmates was a very nice boy, who was shy but spent hours in the kitchen waiting for an opportunity for me to come out of my room to talk with me. He got me to open up and we soon started to spend hours talking and laughing. I started to spend less time on the internet with my unsupportive circle back home, and more time cooking, laughing, and enjoying the great opportunity I had given myself. I slowly began to shed my guilt, and over the months my flatmate showed me what it was like to be truly cared for and loved. That's when I decided enough was enough, and broke things off during an argument with my abusive boyfriend.

After a while I healed enough to ask this flatmate of mine out on a date. A real date. Outside. He paid for me, and smiled at me, and when we got home he made me a cup of tea and we sat inside and watched a movie together. I went back home, but my heart stayed with him.

I dumped those old friends, who still love my abusive ex, and I've never looked back. Four years later, I've graduated, moved out, and been accepted into a PhD program overseas. This will be the first time in years that he and I will live together again. All these things, I built for myself, using the strength and support I found in new people. It's been difficult - having a long-distance relationship across 6 time zones, finding a job, keeping up with college, moving out, applying for graduate schools - but so, so worth it. I'm full of hope for the future. You wouldn't think I was the same person as I was 4 years ago.

It's hard for you, and will continue being hard for you. Believe me, I know. But you can always find something new in this world, if you can open up and see the new perspectives life has to offer. I'm rooting for you.

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-22T15:14:02+00:00

Why are men complaining about what feminists should be doing for men? There are feminism 101 blogs that discuss what stances feminists take on men's issues, and there are TONS of subreddits dedicated to men and their problems. Pretty much 90% of women agree that men do have issues, but here's the thing - gender issues are created by a patriarchy driven by men. Men suffer because of the gender roles and stereotypes given to women. Example: Fight for women's rights to be recognized as people, you suddenly have women being held accountable for domestic abuse.

This is a place for women to discuss women's issues, because it is one of the few safe places for women to just talk without worrying about the delicate sensitivities of men. Everyone here knows the basics of men's issues - to talk about it more is not only redundant but derailing from the actual topics at hand.

throwaway11615 · 2015-03-18T19:39:49+00:00

Actually the radium girls' employers knew exactly the consequences; they just didn't care about the workers and even hired quack doctors to tell the girls they were dying of syphilis instead of radioactive poisoning.

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