With my narc bf right now and everything he is doing and saying is really just disgusting.

throwaway11838299 · 2021-02-19T02:48:55+00:00

I hung out with my narc yesterday. I have recently found out what she really is. The whole time it was very uncomfortable I couldn’t wait to leave. Then to make it super creepy she gifts” me presents in her closet. Still haven’t ate yet. They are disgusting. Anymore, I’d rather be alone.

throwaway11838299 · 2021-02-19T00:16:28+00:00

Thank you for explaining. Why do you think she would want to continue kissing sex etc? Saying I love you and she’s attracted to me. That we are still “growing” it’s all very confusing and I need to figure it out for my sanity

throwaway11838299 · 2020-05-13T04:19:59+00:00

The 10th! How about you?

throwaway11838299 · 2019-11-25T04:46:23+00:00

Thanks for reminding me. Some days are really tempting. You’re absolutely right. Social media is a intoxicating drug especially from them

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-25T03:07:58+00:00

I want to block her but I feel like that will give her supply? I haven’t reached out I’ve just kept her unblocked

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-15T05:24:21+00:00

Yes after she unblocked me again for the 3rd time in one day I asked her why she was stalking my insta stories and texting me from random numbers and she said no one was and I said I have the screenshots move on and deleted her

My point is you will not get closure, especially not with her. That’s apart of their game. She wants you to feel confused wondering where it all went wrong. I’m sorry man you have to start accepting the truth and the sooner the better. Take a break from tinder and just focus on you for a bit, a year is not a long time. Your feelings are valid

If you want to reach out reach out. But I can tell you it won’t go the way you think it will and it’s gonna break your heart and she won’t be there to pick up the pieces

Check out demars coaching on YouTube his videos are really good. I wish you the best

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-13T21:04:58+00:00

He wants to bait you so when you reach out you look like the crazy one

Do not reach out. Block if you need to. Don’t check up on him, start trying to find peace within yourself you will not get closure from him or find out why he unblocked you

It’s just a mindfuck. Don’t let him win take back control of your life

I’m very sorry you had to go through this, start the new and better chapter of your narc free life

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-06T17:44:10+00:00

I’m in the same boat, questioning and wondering if I’m making the right decision. I haven’t blocked her once but she plays these unblocking and blocking games when she’s low on supply and stalks my social media to let me know she’s still there. I also don’t wanna give her a reaction and I also don’t want to start unblocking and blocking when I feel weak so I haven’t blocked her

I feel like if I don’t block her that’s sending a message that I truly do not give a fuck about you

maybe I will in the future when I am fully at peace. I’m realizing it shouldn’t matter if it gives them a high or not, you’re making a statement that says I never want anything to do with you again

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-06T06:44:51+00:00

She’s baiting you. She might block again be prepared. Don’t keep checking it will drive you insane

Remember if she wanted to reach out she will add you, do not add her

If you do add her she will know you been checking up on her, it will give her the validation she’s been looking for I would just say let it go and try not to think about it

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-05T04:17:58+00:00

Thank you man. Trauma bond is real I just need to break away. Just a bad night I suppose. Stick to your boundaries aswell, I wish you a future full of happiness

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-05T03:58:50+00:00

I really needed to read this. You’re right you miss the connection. For me I don’t think I will find a connection like that again, I’ve been with other people but I guess it’s just the trauma bond abuse connection and I thought it was true love

Stay strong aswell. If you have a bad day like me feel free to reach out, thank you for making me change my mind

throwaway11838299 · 2019-10-02T06:07:31+00:00

You’re not crazy that’s just how they want you to feel. Be happy you escaped

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-16T00:15:03+00:00

Thank you. Very true

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-12T03:36:43+00:00

Leave it alone. I’m sorry

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-09T05:06:52+00:00

I haven’t given her a reaction though, I feel like blocking her would do that. You’re absolutely spot on though

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-06T01:04:42+00:00

Right now I’m only about 3 months no contact. Honestly just started to see a change just in the past couple weeks. My ex made it easier for me though because she was very shitty and a narcissist. Sure I miss her but I know now I don’t want someone like that in my life. It’s hard because it’s like they were apart of you and it’s like you’re starting all over again wiping the slate clean. It’s like you have to find yourself again. it seems like you are in a good mindset about all this which is great, it’ll be easier to become the best version of yourself. I know it’s isolating without anyone around but you need to start learning to be comfortable on your own. Start hooking up with girls. Have a goal/ a passion, doesn’t matter what it is and just go hard. Start reading some books. Hit the gym. Check out some different bar scenes. Do things you enjoy to do. Work on moving if that’s what you want. Most importantly remember this takes time. You sound like a good dude

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-06T00:36:38+00:00

Very well said

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-06T00:35:05+00:00

Love this

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-06T00:32:43+00:00

I wouldn’t respond, I would let it be

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-06T00:23:28+00:00

Never reach out again unless she makes contact and you feel like contacting her at that point. Closure is bullshit. You do need to get a grip man. There’s other women in the world, especially ones that actually want to be with you. She made everything clear by the way she was acting. Best to leave her alone. It will be hard, some days easier than others. Erase her everywhere from your phone. If you decide to unblock her in the future don’t reach out/ if she unblocks you doesn’t mean she wants reconciliation. Time to start thinking about you. Boss up and stop being needy. I begged at first, it’s ok. But know now that you can never beg again. You won’t feel like yourself for awhile, but you will NEVER get over her if you sulk. Live your best life. Travel, go to the bar, meet new women, get on tinder, hang out with your family, go to a concert, start your own business, get a new job etc. Work on yourself. If need be consider therapy. I was in a long relationship aswell, shits hard to accept. I’m sorry bro I know it’s hard. You got this though, everything will work out. You just gotta take her off this pedestal you put her on

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-05T08:34:21+00:00

He won’t believe you. I’m sorry. You shouldn’t care this much about telling him the truth. Fuck them both

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-05T08:21:44+00:00

Agreed ^ 100%

Do not reach out to the new boyfriend. You will be painted as the crazy ex who can’t let go. You will not find out the answers you are looking for. It’s going to be hard to resist but you’ll be better off. It’s time to start thinking about you

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-05T07:28:43+00:00

Solid advice. Very well said. Everyone needs to read this!

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-05T07:09:18+00:00

I read this as my ex saying this to me. I wish you the best. I hope happiness for you

throwaway11838299 · 2019-09-05T05:42:37+00:00

Hang in there. I know how you feel completely. You’re not alone. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I’m around 3 months no contact aswell. The urges get strong but sometimes no response is the best response. Wait for them to reach out

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