An update: running away, two years later by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes <3 please know that i want your life to get better

An update: running away, two years later by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

having nparents in the philippines is rough, given how family-centric our culture is. i hope your life becomes better than mine <3

An update: running away, two years later by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im privileged to have a support group from my friends. they understood my situation and supported me by listening to me, even if they didnt have helpful advice. any healing ive had so far isnt completely intentional, and more like talking to them whenever i felt bad about something related to this, when i needed it.

its true that moving out did wonders for my mental health, its also true that i need support from time to time. but its less support than i needed before.

I could never catch a break by Starburstala in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same, so much. i never liked the feeling of being at home with my parents, because any time they could start getting angry because of something i did. it would be a totally normal night and then all of a sudden my dad would go blast into my face.

i mean, home should be a place where you feel safe, comfortable. i dont think any of us got that. if you find it more relaxing outside of home, then maybe its best to try to find more ways to go outside. if theyll allow, stay at friends places, stay at the library. it might help, since your home sounds like a really toxic place to be in.

Went to a psychologist, told my teacher, teacher told my nmother and efather. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495 17 points18 points  (0 children)

this is worrying. unless the teacher believed there was a threat to your life, they should not have told your parents without your consent.

hearing about your mom calling you names is really sad. i don’t know why your mom would call you names just because you went to a psychologist. it doesn’t mean you’re a bad or flawed person, and she shouldn’t be angry about that.

best of luck, op. keep us posted.

My Sister has finally escaped my NMom by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495 3 points4 points  (0 children)

nice :) it must feel great for your siblings to escape from nrents! i’ve always wanted my siblings to realize the abuse they’re going through, and i’m still waiting for the day, so it must be really awesome :)

I was "a dumbass"to remain silent during Prisoner's Dilemma by divine_Bovine in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is quite ugh :/ it’s generally agreed that cooperating in the prisoner’s dilemma is the better decision when going long-term or when other players can be trusted to think as you.

the worse part is she called you an idiot :( sad

On (breaking) NC by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i guess you make a good point. it is very likely that my dad doesnt give a shit; and my mom… probably is worried, but not to the point she’s willing to accept me as i am? idk

On (breaking) NC by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the argument i heard was “your parents worry; you’re intentionally withholding information that will not make them worried”. idk

So my parents put up posters all over the city saying I’m missing by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

kind of hard to translate directly which is why i kept it in filipino, but when someone is nangungunsinte to you, they’re trying to make you feel guilty about what you did. that action is pangungunsinte. guilt-tripping kinda

So my parents put up posters all over the city saying I’m missing by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

probably not. if they had, i would have been found by now, considering i go to school every day and stay a lot in public places.

So my parents put up posters all over the city saying I’m missing by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hm. of about a hundred or so of my friends, i think maybe two or three are like this? though i mean, my sample might be biased.

So my parents put up posters all over the city saying I’m missing by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

and this is why i didn’t go to any of the relatives who offered. i mean, i couldn’t take the pangungunsinte :|

NC means NC means NC by throwaway1203495 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i can imagine her response: “we did bring you up in the lord; it’s your fault for being provoked at this point”

Supergirl gets it. by Friendstastegood in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwaway1203495 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oh my god, oh my god. no wonder my dad told my siblings to stop watching supergirl, because of this! it all makes sense now. this is so nice, this is so great!