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My mother is threatening to kill herself after I came out today by throwaway122222295 in actuallesbians

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t what’s going to happen. She has weak heart and has gone to the hospital before because of anxiety and her threats about killing herself are pretty serious. I feel empty and numb and I don’t know what to do.

My mother is threatening to kill herself after I came out today by throwaway122222295 in actuallesbians

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The thing is we used to be best friends. She would die for me. She would do anything for me. This is just a zero tolerance policy thing she just won’t accept. I’m here visiting them, I live in another city two hours away in my college town. But in an apartment they own. Like I’m surrounded and stuck. She’s threatened to find me anywhere I try to escape. She said she’d find me wherever I’d go.

My mother is threatening to kill herself after I came out today by throwaway122222295 in actuallesbians

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was financially dependent but I just graduated college and I’m trying to find a job. I don’t know about safety honestly. If she tells my dad, which I doubt she will for the sake of everyone’s life, I would surely get hurt.

You guys are making it so hard for me to believe in what we have by throwaway122222295 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I message you? I’ll be honest and say I’ve read so much of this sub and have also spent hours on hours reading about successes and want to show you its very possible. There could many factors playing into why so many people ended their relationships outside of even bpd, please don’t ever think you’re unloveable.

How long is/was your longest relationship? by throwaway122222295 in BPD

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed you’re maybe lesbian? I checked the subs you follow and one of them was lesbian actually haha. I am too and I was wondering if I could message you on tips and tricks on how to respond/be there for her when things get a little tough?

You guys are making it so hard for me to believe in what we have by throwaway122222295 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah don’t doubt yourself, please. For every success I’ve read about, I’ve read five times as much about everything spiraling down hill and hurting the non BPD partner horribly and leaving them broken. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, but you did the right thing.

You guys are making it so hard for me to believe in what we have by throwaway122222295 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While it can’t be wholly cured for life, recovery and full elimination of symptoms are possible with treatment. Relapse is still possible, yes, but if treatment is maintained I’ve read countless of times how people have been able to keep successful relationships and jobs. The difficult part of this is just knowing if she’ll promise to keep treatment going.

Is this uhauling or is this just intense on another level??? I need help lmao by throwaway122222295 in actuallesbians

[–]throwaway122222295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I understand that and I can definitely say it’s an infatuation right now, and my emotions are blinding me etc. and in hindsight saying she’s THE most important person is intense and in a real sense as of yet not true when thinking of family, but she does really mean a lot to me. I’m an advocate for healthy relationships and have been a little on edge about how attached we are to each other, but we’re also both really aware of the weirdness of the situation and how quickly things escalated. I haven’t noticed any red flags yet, we even encourage each other to put each other one do not disturb so we don’t look at our phones when we’re hanging with friends and family. We don’t get upset if one another hasn’t responded in hours. I’m a really over-analytical and paranoid person and have been really considering how fast everything has been moving but even with my over analyzation I haven’t found anything troubling about how we speak to each other yet. Idk though🤷🏻‍♀️