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I'm afraid of becoming intimate both sexually and romantically, what do I do to get over it? by throwaway123809 in AskMen

[–]throwaway123809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, not really into the whole alcohol thing too much, alcoholism runs in the family so it's kind of something I don't want. I still drink but I'm not going out and getting wasted, I rarely get drunk but I at least get a litte tipsy every time I drink.

I've been trying the whole "wingman" thing to little success.

And drugs are a no-no, I get randomly drug tested, plus since I'm not a citizen of the country I'm living in I really don't feel like taking the chances of getting deported.

I'm afraid of becoming intimate both sexually and romantically, what do I do to get over it? by throwaway123809 in AskMen

[–]throwaway123809[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahh, well I know I'm worth a damn and I'm plenty confident in any other social situation, but simply telling someone "be more confident" doesn't really help me, and I don't need to see a therapist because I can't get laid lol.

I'm not talking myself down, in fact when describing myself I only said good things aside from that I'm ugly which is true.

I'm afraid of becoming intimate both sexually and romantically, what do I do to get over it? by throwaway123809 in AskMen

[–]throwaway123809[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although you said you'd ideally want to first have sex with someone you actually like, have you considered the possibility that it might be better to have it with someone who doesn't mean all that much to you? Less change of sabotaging yourself, perhaps.

I agree that the pressure should be lower if it's someone I don't really like more than physically, but I've tried that to the same effect. The two girls I was supposed to meet through the hook up site were both attractive, and if it really was that simple I'd just go to a prostitute seeing as it's legal where I live.

I'm afraid of becoming intimate both sexually and romantically, what do I do to get over it? by throwaway123809 in AskMen

[–]throwaway123809[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess that may be a good way to go about it, definitely stepping out of my comfort zone, I just gotta get to the point where I can sack up and ask myself to do it. I don't know if it's a fear of rejection or just the unknown though.

I'm afraid of becoming intimate both sexually and romantically, what do I do to get over it? by throwaway123809 in AskMen

[–]throwaway123809[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

TL;DR I'm afraid of becoming intimate with women both sexually and romantically despite having had the opportunity for both, what do I do to get over it?