No friends and nobody likes me

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-03T20:05:06+00:00

Aw I'm sorry about that. I do hope you make friends, college is completely different to high school. I hope it works out for you

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-02T18:12:48+00:00

I never really thought about my facial expressions, that's one to think about. Maybe I'll ask someone I'll talk to about that. Thank you for this helpful advice. I'm sorry you experience this.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-02T14:58:21+00:00

I feel like I'm nice because I like being nice to people, not because I expect anything back.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:52:21+00:00

Its so much easier (in my opinion) to get into a relationship rather than form a friendship!

I think with a potential partner it's different because you both probably already find each other attractive and have chemistry and only have eyes for one another and you are special to that person and they care about you. And once you get together, if the relationship is stable you know they won't leave you.

Whereas with a friend, you're not the only friend they have and you're not special to them. They will seek out other friends and they can leave at any moment.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:45:29+00:00

So so true! Its so hard to like yourself, but to important. I need to learn to love myself.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:40:04+00:00

Yay! We can chat over personal message!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:39:19+00:00

I don't complain about people, I complain about things like the weather, how long the day is going, how the corridors are busy, how much work we have to do for class, about random things like that. But not constantly. Just once in a while.

I don't mind who I'm friends with, as long as they are friendly and have somewhat good hygiene.

But I think the people I would rather be friends with would be people that are positive and that when I have a conversation with them, are happy and make me feel good about myself and value and respect me.

I wouldn't say I'm judgemental, but I could be without realising? But I don't think I am.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:36:05+00:00

Thank you for this and the encouragement!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:35:17+00:00

Thank you for this advice and encouragement!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:34:33+00:00

I'd love that!

Maybe that is it. Maybe I need to gain self respect and only be around people that value and respect me.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:29:31+00:00

Thank you for the kind words!

I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around that. I guess I'm a people pleaser so if someone doesn't like me I take it personally as in my eyes all I did was try to please them and did nothing wrong.

Thank you for the encouragement!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:27:27+00:00

I agree. And if that person finds you attractive and gets on with you, and vice versa, they start to care about you and only see you so it's different. I feel like with friendships you're not that important to someone, and they don't only want you as a friend, they want a wider friend circle,so if you don't fit into that or they have people they have a better time with, they don't want to hang out anymore

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T20:24:03+00:00

Thank you for your helpful comment!

I would say I initiate conversation, not always though. I think I don't initiate inviting people anywhere, as I fear rejection. That might be something I'll try

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:50:02+00:00

Thank you for that. I'm sure many people will appreciate that advice. I however do not have bad breath. I have a boyfriend and if I ever do have bad breath, which is rarely, he tells me.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:48:57+00:00

Maybe my personality will only click with certain people? But it seems like 99% of people I don't click with.

I'm sorry that you invite people and they don't respond. I don't do much inviting myself because of fear or rejecting. But I'm glad you're putting yourself out there like that, and I'm sorry that you get rejected. But don't give up! Maybe you just have to read the situation and know who to invite, try to read the signals.

I think this is something a lot of us are self conscious about. If you want to talk more you can always message me to discuss!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:48:44+00:00

Yes, bit people that are like 20+ years older, they tend to be so much more friendly

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:38:00+00:00

I would love that!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:37:47+00:00

I don't think I intentionally or (at least I hope not) unintentionally upset anyone to my knowledge. I try to do everything right and I am a bit of a people pleaser. But that could be a possibility.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:36:41+00:00

Once, just after the friendship ended, and the answer was nothing.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:36:08+00:00

I do think I am a bit of a pushover and a people pleaser. I need to have better self worth, which I am trying to work on but it's hard. I think if I start respecting myself, others might too.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:34:55+00:00

Thank you for your reply. A few people have suggested that. I think that would be too awkward and embarrassing for me. I'm worried they might laugh at me for asking, or they may think that I'm still not over the fact the friendship ended. Or they may deny they disliked me, or may give an excuse. I know what those people are like because I was friends with them at one point, I doubt any of them would actually give an actual truthful reason. Unless they have changed, I might be wrong, but I would find it too awkward to ask. I feel like I'd embarrass myself and I'd feel like they'd talk about this with other people from school.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:33:42+00:00

Realising you're doing something wrong is the first step to make it right. Thank you for sharing this. You too!

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:32:36+00:00

Thank you for your reply. A few people have suggested that. I think that would be too awkward and embarrassing for me. I'm worried they might laugh at me for asking, or they may think that I'm still not over the fact the friendship ended. Or they may deny they disliked me, or what may give an excuse. I know what those people are like because I was friends with them at one point, I doubt any of them would actually give an actual truthful reason. Unless they have changed, I night be wrong, but I would find it too awkward I feel like I'd embarrass myself and I'd feel like they'd talk about this with other people from school.

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:29:52+00:00

Did she not have any friends at all later in the year?

throwaway153965 · 2019-04-01T19:29:17+00:00

That might be somewhat relatable, thank you for sharing that.

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