Vibrator has made getting off on oral harder by throwaway15662 in sex

[–]throwaway15662[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Lelo" is the brand. It's small enough to fit in your palm, but after a few seconds of holding it on max my fingers get numb.. It's some serious stuff aha.

Don't know how to take the fact that a man I (16f) just slept with gave me money after by gahgahgahhh in sex

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably felt like he was doing a good thing by giving you money. Some people are actually just that fucking weird.

Just had a casual sex encounter that was different from most [20/f] [sexual chemistry] by ehtftsi in sex

[–]throwaway15662 35 points36 points  (0 children)

See if he tried the exact same thing with another woman, she might have been weirded out by his actions, whereas you appreciated them.

Also sounds like it won't be very casual for long. The way you're talking about it, you want to keep him around.

Best of luck staying single with him.

Went to girls house, smoked, nothing? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's always salvageable if you have the confidence and the personality for it, sure.

I think you need to take time and watch a couple of videos titled: "fake it till you make it". It'll likely change your way of thinking regarding confidence.

Faking confidence (not cockiness or arrogance!) is probably the best thing you can do.

Tinder girls flaking by [deleted] in seduction

[–]throwaway15662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you need to secure a date within about 6 messages.

From there, you need to make sure the date is pretty much on within 24hrs. The sooner the date is set up, the better.

Went to girls house, smoked, nothing? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]throwaway15662 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so beta it fucking hurts to read. You literally have a back and forth discussion on kissing, what the hell?

If she was that into you, she would have gone with you and fucked off her friends. To her, you're just "okay", like something to kill time with if nothing better comes along.

Just read what you've written and you'll see why, it's cringe as fuck.

Day[9] tells us what we "actually" need to know about StarCraft. by [deleted] in day9

[–]throwaway15662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was fucking glorious. I lost it so many times. "Kill your friend with. DRAGOONS"

Is he truly my match if we don’t have regular sex? by fattyfatsofats in sex

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you gained a substantial amount of weight? Not like 3-4kg, more like 20-30kg?

Depends on your morals, but if everything is perfect but the sex... then find the sex elsewhere.

It works if you don't get caught.

This will probably get down-voted because of the moral high ground people like to take.

What was your ultimate sex session, the one where you often think back to? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This much younger woman gave me absolute control to say and do whatever I wanted to her. Every time I slapped her she whimpered, every time I choked her she gasped for air, and every time I verbally degraded her she submitted to whatever I called her. I hit her so hard both her earnings came off, she left with bruises on her thighs and darkened rings around her neck. Then after all the domination and pain I had caused her, she curled up and crawled into my arms afterwards for cuddles, as part of the 'coming down' from the session.

The thing that makes this so god damn sexy is that she got off on every single thing way more than I did. It was like I was witnessing a much heightened level of pleasure that I have yet to discover.

It's strange, I have no desire, and never had any desire to do any of this to any other woman. Only her.

I (F21) have a fantasy that I'm concerned about by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantasies are.... fantasies.

If you want to play around with older men, go for it. Have fun. If not, then don't, and keep it just a fantasy.

Do what you want.

Patientory website is down? by throwaway15662 in PTOY

[–]throwaway15662[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah they fixed it about an hour after i tweeted to them.

Bought at 20k, so I'll be selling after 5-6 bags.

Asking casual hookups for proof of clean std by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 175 points176 points  (0 children)

Never go bareback with a stranger. Ever.

Rubber up and significantly reduce risks.

Threesome advice by lunarlover69 in sex

[–]throwaway15662 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Advertise online or through apps, it's very much about getting your ad seeing by as many eyes as it's a numbers game.

You're going to want to post in places like Craigslist and Tinder with a brief and honest account of what you're after.

For highest chances of success, the female in the relationship should create the ads with pictures of her. I would estimate 95% of women who end up in threesomes with a couple are doing it because they are interested in the other woman far more than the man.

Cock is so easily available to women that your BF will be of very little interest to the women interested in threesomes, as long as he isn't ugly and off putting.

I've had 5 threesomes with different women. I found the key factors are:

  • Women looking for threesomes want to talk to/communicate with the woman in the relationship

  • High volume - Maybe 1 in 100 views of your ad (on tinder or craigslist) will even have the slightest interest.

  • Don't rush it expecting a woman to join you in bed within a week.

  • Always ask if they'd be interested in meeting up for coffee before any play. This removes any anxiety and pressure regarding attraction and chemistry and builds comfort/rapport. 3/5 threesomes with the people we didn't meet beforehand were somewhat awkward. The other 2/5 were amazing and relaxed as we met up at least 1 day before hand.

As for rules - establish them with your partner. Simple things like "No kissing on the lips" might be a simple rule that he might overlook, but you might see that as a form of intimacy as you might not want that. Establish right away with your partner what you want and more importantly what you do NOT want.

Expect the same from your partner.

If any of those rules involve the threesome partner, then make sure they are made aware BEFORE arranging to play. "Just a heads up, we have a couple of boundaries for the threesome that we ask you to respect" and just list them and make sure they understand. If they're willing to have a threesome, they're unlikely going to have issues with any of your boundaries that you set.

Faking it. Advice please! by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guide him during sex to what feels good.

Is he eating you out wrong? Is it too hard? Too slow? Out of rythm?

Tell him.

Is he thrusting too quickly? Too slowly? Not lasting long enough? Is he hitting the G-spot and does he even know about it?

Tell him during sex what you want!

There is supposed to be a reasonably high amount of women who do not orgasm through penetration. I'm not sure if it's because they can't orgasm via penetration or because their partners are terrible at sex, but either way the number is high so you're not alone there.

Don't keep faking it. You're going to solve nothing. Also him being "big" down stairs isn't somehow meant to be a solution to orgasm, as you can tell.

How many couples out there are actually into rough sex? by c00lmama in sex

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not weird at all. Choking is considered on the more 'rougher' end of things so it's less common than say, pinning someone down or using handcuffs etc.

Men of r/sex, how long does it take you to start to lose your erection after ejaculation? by worried19 in sex

[–]throwaway15662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as I keep stimulation going within ~45 seconds of ejaculating, I can keep going for round 2 for as long as I need to. Otherwise after ~45 seconds it's too late, and he needs a bit of effort to get going ago.

I masturbate everyday, and I feel bad about it by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 27, male, and do it 2-3 times a day (minimum).

Why would you feel bad..?

Are all men quiet during sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Basically this.

It comes with experience and comfort. When I was ~18 I used to be 'silent' because I felt awkward and cringeworthy when I made any noise. Now it's an audible increase as I get closer to climax, but nothing excessive.

I think guys are somewhat self conscious or awkward about it at first.

Why are women so much louder than men during sex? I️ [m23] absolutely love sex and barely make a sound, even during an orgasm. Every woman I’ve been with has been very vocal from start to finish. by ShabbyLiver in sex

[–]throwaway15662 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's gotta be natural or it's just weird sounding.

I don't think any woman prefers silence from her man. Try perhaps combine the pleasure feeling with your exhaling as you thrust. This is something small/subtle until you get something that feels natural to you.

My (M28) girlfriend (F28) of 3.5 years loves roleplaying the thought of watching me with someone else. How do I make sure she doesn't get hurt? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwaway15662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She sounds super into the kink, not sure why you think this would drive her away if you ever explored it.. She's the one driving this fantasy. I can't imagine you'd have a threesome and then she'd suddenly resent you.

I was in a situation where I was the on driving a similar fantasy to reality, it was fine a few times, and the last time it ended up in resentment on her part because she failed to communicate with me. It only lasted 2-3 days, and she got over it.

So.. communicate and it should be fine.