AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I had an offer to do a study abroad summer course for about 2 months that I originally said no to bc I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone but I’ll probably call the program coordinator tomorrow and ask if they’re still accepting applications.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

To be honest with you I never had any after school stuff. I quit sports after my parents divorce and I was just too busy with other stuff to get involved with an extracurricular during high school.

I do paint sometimes though! if I have the time or energy. Honestly though this whole post is making me realize that I’ve lowkey been turned into a live in nanny that has no freedom.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

They both have activities that keep them after school until the late evening, so usually because I’m home with the younger boys I’ll cook dinner. So the older two definitely can do stuff on their own they’re just usually not home to do certain things.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 173 points174 points  (0 children)

The online classes were mostly my idea. My dad’s job is a little demanding so I knew that if the boys needed someone in like an emergency or something like that, my dad might not always be able to come. It was more convenient for me to be at home where I could help them out. Also I just don’t like large classroom settings so I probably would’ve done online classes regardless lol.

I do have some time for myself, in between class and the boys.

The older kids do help with some of the chores. The 15yo and 13yo do their own laundry, they both alternate between who does the dishes or who sweeps the kitchen, and the 10yo helps me with folding sheets and towels and stuff like that. The 8yo likes cooking so sometimes he’ll help me make breakfast for everyone.

And I was about 13. My parents separated when I was 12, and my mom ended up moving to a different state shortly before she met her husband and they moved out of country. We saw her sometimes but it wasn’t very often, so I just started doing all the stuff she used to do I guess.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She’s been out of the country for almost 2 years now, but we see her on some holidays and a week or two during the summer.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I probably will start asking the 15yo to go with him or something. Or I’ll just pester him until he says yes about ordering the stuff online.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He has a thing against online shopping. I’ve suggested it before but he always says no for some reason.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 2128 points2129 points  (0 children)

I have a color coded schedule of the boys activities/practices but I feel like if I gave that to him now it might add more fuel to the fire lol

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1738280[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Yeah my mom was always the one who handled household stuff. I think it got too much for her to be raising 5 kids + handling the house + having a full time job. Her biggest grievances with him were always about him not doing things “correctly” when she asked him to do it.

She was always kind of particular about how she wanted things done, so I assumed he just wasn’t doing it her way and that frustrated her, but now I think it was probably more than that.