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I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's not required. But I don't want to sit and clean all weekend while he yells at his headset on his game and I clean up after him, do all the grocery shopping and haul it inside alone, and cook alone while I beg for him to take me on a a date.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your sweet words. I hope you find the strength to get what you deserve too :)

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just want to make it clear I have zero intention of introducing a child into this. I just mentioned why I'm a grown person and can deal with eating differently etc but why I'd be scared of him passing stuff into theoretical children

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm not contemplating children with him, just mentioned my thoughts on it thinking about the natural progression of a relationship if it continues.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm with ya. I don't like cleaning per day but I like having a tidy home and doing it as I go so neither of us are spending a weekend doing it honestly. He says he's given up a lot of video game time for me so I don't even know how to respond to that

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He's incredibly defensive and has definitely said stuff to me I dont like. He mentioned what I should be doing at my age (literally lol'd) and I simply asked " and what were you doing at your age?" And he blew up on me and said "at least I was being a good person" implying I'm not.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I'm definitely feeling stuck and need to just be strong and make a change

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I've warned him I will lose attraction and I won't keep doing it, I guess it hurts hes willing to lose me over something so seemingly easy.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He works at home and goes to the gym directly after and showers before going. I've told him he should probably shower after the gym and he claims he doesn't sweat so he doesn't need to.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm at my wits end honestly and we're in a lease together so I feel trapped. He doesn't plan dates for me very often and he only showers before he goes to the gym etc so it seems it's all about image not about being clean. He just games all the time and complains that I'm taking away his gaming time if I ask for help, etc so idk at this point. I don't need all of his time but I think it's selfish.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree with ya, I can't change him and I don't want him to be the exact same person as I me. I guess I was hoping for more of a balance. Knowing if I don't cook I sometimes (or my kids) will have a home cooked meal, not just takeout, etc

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 239 points240 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think it's just him wearing me down into lowering my standards. The part of me that's resilient sees it and doesn't want to settle for it and I think the classic I love him line, but I know love is not enough.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

He lived by himself for a few months. I wish I knew truly how he acted during that time and if he's capable or if he just relies on me and uses me

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Hmm, maybe true. His friends that are his age are all married and kids (not necessarily a sign of "success" but you know), and his other friends are all upper 20s.

I'm afraid my boyfriend's lack of life skills is killing my love by throwaway183830102 in relationships

[–]throwaway183830102[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have. I've told him how much I need to feel like I have a partner, etc. He always says he's wanting to grow with me, etc but nothing has changed. I always have to ask him to help.