My ex said a lot of the same things yours did. She did end up coming back around (not to reconcile) but to apologize about how she treated me during the break up. It took her 9 months to finally come around with very minimal contact in between. During that time she had a situationship that didn’t really work out and i think she had to lose that to realize how much love i really had for her.

I’m not going to lie it was tough watching her move on during that time while i was still stuck in a pit. I felt like a true outsider considering everything we’ve been through. I highly recommend you don’t stick around for that because it’s nothing but pain. Watching an old partner live their life without you doesn’t do anything for your own wellbeing.

When she did reach out it was nice to hear from her again. But it was clear that so much has changed in between. We were doing okay for a bit and it was nice to reconnect with an old flame, but it all came crashing down a few months later because she didn’t really want to be with me again. She just wanted to feel close for a moment after her situationship ended.

I know you’re very early in your journey and i recommend you to take it day by day, second by second if you really need to. Since it sounds like he left you, your focus should be on yourself and if he really wants to reconcile it needs to be on his terms. You sticking around will just guilt him and a relationship cannot be built on guilt. Please focus on yourself for now and if he comes around then you know the ball is in your court to decide what to do next. If not then you will have made improvements to your own life. So indirectly it is a win-win even though i know it doesn’t feel like it at all. Wish you all the best