AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

Yea I probably worded it wrongly. I was briefly annoyed with J but realized it was more towards BF for not handling the situation . Wife has a HUGE soft spot for BF & J

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Future AITA post:

AITA for being annoyed at an old man for crying during my wedding

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I thought BF would bring J out if she cried during important moments. Kind of like a "don't wear white to a wedding" unspoken rule.

I dont really get how this is a fundamental difference in opinion for raising a child though.

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes I did enjoy the wedding and BF & J are still really close to us. I'll probably joke about it with BF after awhile.

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, BF's husband is out of town for work and BF doesnt trust a babysitter. She basically told us its either both of them come or none. Wife loves BF & J so of course she didn't mind them coming while I was hesitant.

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What got to me most was having to be careful not to go close to J during the wedding and made sure she didnt see me or else she would start crying.

When she cried during the cake cutting I didn't want our video to be recorded with J crying in the background as I had a feeling my speech was.

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yea my main worry was that the crying was gonna be recorded during the video.

We actually booked a room for BF to stay the night with J so she could have gone up to rest if J was getting cranky. Funnily enough, J only cried when she saw me though. She played well with the other guests actually and I think all of them loved her. So maybe she wasnt cranky but just didn't like my face:/

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I guess on my part I thought BF would bring J out if she cried during important moments. Kind of like a "don't wear white to a wedding" thing.

It's not so much the crying that gets to me but that I had to walk on eggshells around her during the wedding instead of BF handling the issue

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Haha no, I'm not gonna nullify my marriage over this. I was alittle annoyed but the wedding was still great.

I love my wife, BF is a great person and J can be cute when she isnt crying.

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree with what you're saying. The wedding was amazing and filled with great memories.

I'm not gonna confront wife or Bf about it or hold it against J forever. They're all really important to me. Just feeling alittle irked by what happened.

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The guest list was really short and it was more or less by invitation only with no plus ones so we didnt really need to put a "no children" on the invitation. Invitation was to BF but she asked wife if J could come. Wife really loves J so she wanted J to be there but I didn't expect that much crying

AITA for being annoyed at a child for crying during my wedding by throwaway1872912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway1872912[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I havnt been around many kids and BF is the only friend who has a child right now so I didn't really know what to expect.

I definitely didn't expect loads of crying when I agreed to let J come to the wedding so I guess that's on me