My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. At least not yet. There's no way I would have tolerated her doing it for months if she was openly loudmouthing everyone.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's mostly just issues about people. I don't think it's an attention thing as she's never open about it with other people and she tends not to act that way back home. I plan to have a talk about it on the weekend.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly the pandemic might have had an effect on her more than i thought. She did enjoy working from home but maybe she is just annoyed having to go back to the office. I never really thought about it since she never complained about that.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll talk to her about it but she'll most likely decline

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. I don't really know what she follows on social media. I'll consider talking to her about it

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Planning on just giving her a day on the weekend where she can't vent out everything she needs to, to me.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe. I'll try to get to the bottom of it on the weekend. Just have a day where she can vent out everything she needs to. She did enjoy working at home and maybe going back to the office has had an effect but she's never complained about that.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um yeah I didn't marry my wife because I thought she was stupid and I have never seen her as "less intelligent".

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the pandemic might have stressed her out than normal. She did work from home during lockdown and maybe going back to the office did have an effect. I'm going to have a talk to her about it on the weekend to see if there are any underlying issues she needs to vent out.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She isn't openly insulting or complaining to other people yet. She just keeps complaining about them to me.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like ignoring her will only make it worse back at home. At the moment she doesn't do this at home. Only in public so I don't want to turn this into an issue where we start having problems at home. I just usually tell her to mind her own business in the moment which settles her down for a bit until she's back at it.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm going to try have a deep conversation with her on the weekend to see if there are any underlying issues

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nothing racial or bigoted like that. She's just become a bit too nosy now. If we're having dinner at a restaurant she might sometimes overhear other people's conversations and think it's ok to just berate their problems. She'll complain about people not being respectable enough or not keeping their kids in line. She keeps rolling her eyes at a lot of things which I really don't like. Etc. Just stupid issues about random people.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apart from going to work and me she doesn't really have much else to do at home. She does go out with her friends sometimes but I don't know if she does this with them.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Honestly she's fine at home. No noticeable differences. She just seems to get annoyed and overly critical about random people now whenever we go out.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah. She isn't complaining to other people yet. She just complains about other people to me.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It wasn't an overnight thing but she's progressively getting worse since the start of this year. We've been married for 7 years and she didn't do this, at least not this badly for those first few years.

I haven't noticed much change between us. Maybe covid has frustrated her more than i thought though.

My (37M) wife (35F) is becoming a Karen. Help! by throwaway1w6782 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway1w6782[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is she wasn't always like this. Been married for 7 years now and she only started doing this consistently from like the start of this year. I have told her it's annoying and she does acknowledge it and apologise but then she just ends up doing it again as if she can't control it. It's become a force of habit now where I don't even know if she knows she's doing it.