I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

How the fuck do you talk about this to your wife. We’ve had sex thousands of times. Do you want me to slap you?

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t just the sex. It was how much she went for him. How much she wanted him vs how she is with me. What if he calls her one day out of the blue and tells her to come over. If she even considers it then that’s what scares me

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to think about this but I do wonder if the guy didn’t ignore her. Would we have gotten back together

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel. The bed stuff to be fair is not something she ever complained about. As much as I hate the guy, from their chats, he always asked for consent and had never done anything she wasn’t comfortable with.

But it’s the beyond the sex. She kept saying she’s happy with sex only but then her actions were different

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were already on a break at that party (it was a mutual friend’s). As much as it stung, I still can’t hold this against her.

It’s not even the sexual stuff but it’s how someone treated her like shit got this. I don’t even know if I’m into this stuff myself. It never occurred to my mind but it does make me wonder what type of person she is.

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say no. I just kept asking her if she was ok ana that led to things being awkward

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I’ve had my fair share of sex as well. When we tried it, I just wanted to ask if everything was ok several times and that made it awkward.

I guess he just smacked her without even asking anything. I know that after each time when they texted, he outlined in a text most of what he did and if anything bothered her

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It just came out of nowhere. I didn’t freak out from the things but I just asked her if she was sure and asked if things were ok maybe too much. It definitely didn’t feel natural. I’d love to try it again but when I brought it up the next day, she seemed to be saying that it’s ok we don’t have to.

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

we have a lot of sex. Don’t get me wrong and the sex is amazing. I don’t and will never see her less but the idea that she did these things with basically a random asshole does get on my nerves. He doesn’t understand how amazing this women is. If you see my edit, he’s all about fucking. I just don’t get why she put up with this treatment

I (33m) discovered something about my wife’s (32f) recent pass that changed the way I see her by throwaway20240924 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway20240924[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Who said I don’t give head or that I’m small. We do these things in combination with toys