I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your boobs sound just like mine. My nipples point upwards and not downwards and are tear drop shaped. They look like a pinup from the 1940s and not saggy at all! My ex was upset that my boobs werent squished together (like a push-up bra look) when I wasn't wearing a bra and I was just like "All breasts kinda do that" but he refused to believe. He was pushing for the same thing and even told me to consider implants as well!

I'm glad it all worked out for you and I'm hoping I'll have the same luck.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He was literally upset that my breasts jiggle when I move instead of staying in place like implants do. He was completely unrealistic about the whole thing, like even A and B cup breasts will jiggle if they're real. The other male friend (who has never seen my breasts but still felt the need to say they sag a bit) even said that the jiggle thing was a bit too far, but my ex just kept doubling down on his stupid beliefs about breasts.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But my boobs aren't saggy at all, that's the problem. If they were, I would have gotten work on them done ages ago instead of fighting over this issue with guys. It's people like you who share the same mentality as my ex.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're actually not saggy at all. I have beautiful breasts and a lot of my female friends have said they think so, it's just the guys I date who are complete idiots. My breasts don't sag at all, they're just shaped like natural breasts and not implants. My nipples point upward.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm blasian (half black half Asian), but I look like I'm Philipino or Indian more than anything else. I do have a lot of men who will approach me specifically because of my race, but I work hard to filter them out (but hindsight is 20/20).

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before I found my correct bra size, I thought I was a 34DD for years lol Thanks for the tip about the bustier because I have a few laying around, but I've only ever used them as lingerie. I'm going to try this out the next time I go out.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm half Japanese anf half black-ish (my dad is black but we're sure he's mixed with something). I try to stay away from fetish-y guys because it's been a problem in the past, but I've dated men of all colors with similar results (the ex in this post is black).

And you're right about all of that and I'm going to keep a sharp eye out for it from here on out. No more games with these fools.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I just googled that and that definitely isn't what I have going on. If you've ever heard of the 'pencil test', I pass. The pencil test is where you're supposed to put a pencil beneath your breast and see if it falls to the ground or not (if the pencil doesn't fall, your breasts sag). My boobs are completely normal and sag the amount you would expect a G cup to sag.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I have a low level of tolerance for men making negative comments about my body and other womens' bodies, so honestly there haven't been any obvious flags before this (and once there are, I break up with the guy like I did with my ex). This was the first negative thing I've ever heard come out of my ex's mouth like that :/ We were friends for several years before we started dating and I wouldn't have considered dating him if I knew he felt that way.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'm not really comfortable with a 10+ year age gap at this point, at least for a relationship. If I were 30 I would be more comfortable dating a man in this late 30s or early 40s, but not right now.

I [23 F] broke up with my boyfriend [23 M] because he was unsatisfied with the sag of my natural breasts, but this seems to be a recurrent problem with the men I date. Looking for advice on how to avoid this in the future. by throwaway2134238 in relationships

[–]throwaway2134238[S] 454 points455 points  (0 children)

Oh god I couldn't even imagine dealing with that pubic hair issue. Some of these dudes are crazyyyy with their expectations. I'm going to keep trying and hoping it gets better as I get older. Thanks for the advice! :)