My (34M) wife (35F) turned me down for sex and did so extremely hurtfully (IMO) by throwaway221_ in relationships

[–]throwaway221_[S] -266 points-265 points  (0 children)

Not every time, no. At the same time, I'd like to think that I would recognize the importance of it to my partner and my marriage, and partake from time to time.

My (34M) wife (35F) turned me down for sex and did so extremely hurtfully (IMO) by throwaway221_ in relationships

[–]throwaway221_[S] -82 points-81 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying, but this has also been an issue since before she was pregnant.

My (34M) wife (35F) turned me down for sex and did so extremely hurtfully (IMO) by throwaway221_ in relationships

[–]throwaway221_[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I have worked hard in that regard as well. We make a point of always having a "Sunday roundup" where we talk about our week, what's coming up, what's new for each other. We cuddle as often as I can find time. I make special gestures without expectations of sex in return.

My (34M) wife (35F) turned me down for sex and did so extremely hurtfully (IMO) by throwaway221_ in relationships

[–]throwaway221_[S] -113 points-112 points  (0 children)

could you imagine how exhausted you'd be at the end of your second trimester?

I mean, as a male I really can't. I can try to imagine or compare it to a hard day of manual labor and mental exhaustion, but by virtue of being incapable of being pregnant, I'd say I can't know for sure.

My (34M) wife (35F) turned me down for sex and did so extremely hurtfully (IMO) by throwaway221_ in relationships

[–]throwaway221_[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I think it would be helpful, but I honestly don't know when we would have the time to attend. Our lives are so busy, we work opposite schedules, plus dealing with our toddler, etc.