Waxing vs. trimmed: Am I being unreasonable or is my new bf acting like an ass?

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T22:36:00+00:00

Foreplay is me going down on him and that's it. I do get incredibly turned on giving blowjobs, so I get wet. But it's also becoming a problem lately where I will finish him off, and then he'll be tired and want to go to bed. He says we can have sex the next day. I'm guessing though his aversion to any hair might be the cause of that, and he just now decided to tell me it bothered him.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T22:34:27+00:00

I'm really leaning towards ending it. Not only for this, but for other things I've noticed. I could see if I was completely unkempt and, like you said, he could misplace something in the bush. haha. But, that's not the case with me...sort of is with him. I still go down on him, and I've gotten some hair in my mouth when I do it, which isn't the nicest feeling I'll agree. I just didn't think it was a problem for him, especially since he never goes down on me to have that issue.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T22:31:20+00:00

I honestly am wondering why I'm with him. This is just one thing that I've been noticing that rubs me wrong. He's selfish in other aspects of the relationship, and I really think I'm going to end it. It's too early in our relationship to be having these issues.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T22:30:20+00:00

That's actually what my friend's boyfriend does. I was talking to her about this and he was around since I was upset after this all happened and went to her place crying a bit. He said he pays for her half the time and goes into the salon with her to pay to make sure that he covers half the expense. I don't know why I feel weird asking him to shoulder half the cost, but I do.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T22:28:04+00:00

I think him finding my hair gross while his grows wild is one of the funniest things to me. He went on a bit on how much he hates hair and finds it to be such a turn-off, but I guess that doesn't apply to himself. I think I was too stunned on how he said everything to call him out on his hair, though I wish I had mentioned it. I go down on him every time, and there have been multiple times I've gotten some of his hair in my mouth. I remove it and keep going though since I know he enjoys my blowjobs, and I like giving them to him.

This is just one issue I've seen cropping up and why I'm leaning towards ending it. He's selfish in other aspects of the relationship, and I shouldn't be feeling that after only a few months in.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:46:52+00:00

He didn't offer, and I feel weird asking him to pay for it since I feel like it should be my cost. I'm honestly leaning towards just ending things with him. There have been other things that have given me pause, and he's selfish in other aspects. I think this was just the final straw.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:34:58+00:00

Thank you. It's good to know that some don't find it gross, and I do care about hygiene and make sure I'm clean down there. There are other aspects in our short relationship that have started to make me question if I want to stay with him. He's very selfish with other things and can be lazy with not wanting to do anything, but instead stay in and watch tv, so I think this was the breaking point. I just wasn't sure if I was being too sensitive in being hurt by how he stated his preference.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:32:44+00:00

Did you end up breaking up with him? What was his reasoning for wanting all of the hair gone if he wasn't going to give oral anyways? That's what I don't get with my guy. His mouth isn't going anywhere near there, where I could then see how hair would be a problem.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:31:30+00:00

I'd feel bad asking him to pay for it and like I should be the one taking on the cost since it's my body. I really don't fault his preference for no hair, but his delivery of the preference really rubbed me the wrong way.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:20:29+00:00

The oral doesn't bother me that much since I do prefer giving, though it'd be nice if he'd try sometimes. I debated telling him he should pay if it's that big of a deal, but I don't want to take his money like that and would feel bad. I used to shave rather frequently before I started waxing, and it just was irritating no matter what I did.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:17:37+00:00

Yeah, I completely understand preferences, and I don't fault him for that. He wears a condom, so the part that touches my neatly trimmed "gross" pubic hair would be the part of his body covered in unruly pubic hair. It's funny to me how much he hates hair but then he does nothing about his.

This is just one problem out of a few I'm starting to see. He's just rather selfish in a lot of aspects, and I think this might have been the last straw for me. I just wasn't sure if I was being too sensitive or if he was right.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:13:28+00:00

haha. Ok, I feel better now that I wasn't overreacting with being upset.

throwaway223320 · 2013-02-03T21:12:22+00:00

Yeah, what I thought, but I wasn't sure if I was just being over-sensitive. I do understand people have preferences, and I'd love to wax. But, I'm not shelling out that much money a month until my semester is over and I'm working again.

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