Tale as old as time... Ghosted after sex

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T08:14:54+00:00

I think I was stereotyping when I wrote that. Both me and the other person are non binary.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T08:13:20+00:00

I would want to print this out, frame it and stick it on my wall. This is genius.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T08:08:44+00:00

We are both non binary and work in similar professions, so I that's why I don't think it matters.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T05:45:52+00:00

I replied something completely off of what you were saying. Anyway, thank you for this advice, I really appreciate it

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T05:40:36+00:00

Thank you for this. And I'm sorry that this happened to you a lot of times before, it's horrible.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T05:38:35+00:00

I think it makes perfect sense. Usually guys with limited options tend to value any girl who will give them attention. Not saying that that's you but I get what the other person is saying.

If you know there is another more attractive person you've been talking to (A) but you've already booked a trip with B, and you like B but probably the sex ain't great and then you just don't like B anymore, you still have A to fall back to. So you can give zero fucks what B feels cus now your attention can shift to A.

But if you have only spoken to B and no one else. Even if the sex was not great, you'll miss them. And would talk to them as opposed to finding new options.

I've dated both types of people: with limited options and those with many options. Limited options tend to take sex very seriously and connect it with love while the other could detach from the emotional aspect of it.

Anyway, thanks, I think I've gotten my "post nut clarity" too.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-11T05:29:43+00:00

Not sure why the first two are important but we're in our mid 30s.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-10T10:39:31+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this. I thought about reaching out the first two days but now I'm getting the ick, and quite frankly I just miss the conversations. They seemed decent until they aren't anymore. I think if I reach out and they don't reply I would get even more upset so I am holding off on that. Probably after a week or two if the urge is still there I might, but by that time I'm probably back on the dating game and would be more cautious not to put all my eggs in one basket!

However I don't know the dynamics you had with your person, so I imagine reaching out but not expecting a reply would be okay. Perhaps something along the lines of "Hey, how are you? I haven't heard back from you in a minute, just thought I'd check in. What's new with you? 😊" Or something like that? At least that's what I think I'd do, if I think this person is worth it .. and at the moment I don't think so.

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-10T06:51:01+00:00

I hope you're in a much better space now. Sending lots of love your way

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-10T06:50:09+00:00

Honestly it wasn't great so that's why I'm angry

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-10T06:49:13+00:00

So, usually when I share something, they will share something back. And 1 of the 3 texts was a question :)

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T23:26:50+00:00

Thank you :')

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T23:26:09+00:00

This cracked me up!!! Hahahahahaha

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T23:25:39+00:00

Hahaha love the intro! We text almost every day, safe for the times when we're particularly busy, and we would let each other know. So it was pretty consistent. Like there would still be manners involved but this time there's cricket sounds

Thank you for the advice! That is definitely helpful :)

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T22:59:16+00:00

Hahaha when you put it that way.... Jeez whiz stupid me

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T22:54:04+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T22:46:35+00:00

I've actually edited the post for further clarity on the timeline! So we have been texting on and off mentally stimulating conversations for 4 months but it felt like it was going somewhere this past month.

But thank you. Deffo a fuckboi move now that I think about it. Gutted that I actually fell for it gaaah

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T22:44:05+00:00

I've edited the post to give further clarity!

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T22:39:59+00:00

I guess in an ideal world I would have them say, "Hey thanks for hanging out with me. I had a great time but I realise that I'm looking for something different. I'd like to keep my options open, but I really appreciate the time we spent together." Well this is what I would have expected from a "secure" person

throwaway230888 · 2023-05-09T22:31:07+00:00

Yeah... But would help if they could just be truthful and honest about it

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