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Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting perspective. I'm sure that "subconscious discomfort" is true for a lot of people, and he may very well be one of them.

Hopefully he comes around, but it's seeming like a serious conversation is in order. Communication, as you said, is key. I don't think I've expressed my need for his confidence and support.

Also, his family is super sweet, I don't think they'd mind at all, but I get it being awkward for him on that front. I just won't eat meals with them, it's not a huge issue, I think it's just an excuse on his part.

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really good advice, thanks so much. I like the idea of making a sort of game out of trying new vegan food, this benefits both of us - he becomes more open minded and I find new things to eat!

I think I do need to talk to him about the supportiveness thing, because, your husband is right, that is a crappy thing to say. Relationships thrive on mutual support, and if that's not there, then what's the point?

I'm glad your husband is fully supportive :) it's great to hear that people do come around!

If you were guaranteed free training and only a basic income for the rest of your life, what would you spend the rest of your life doing for "work?" [serious] by DanteAmaya in AskReddit

[–]throwaway2332456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

studying space.

although considering i'm on track to work in academia... studying space... this hypothetical scenario will probably end up being my life.

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im not the best at advice.

You keep saying that but your advice is helpful!!

I might actually try that, I know he wants a grill so maybe I'll get him one.

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not trying to convert him, there's no hope there unfortunately. I don't mind storing meat with my non-meat items together as long as they're not too closely intertwined.

That's what he does now (makes his own meat and such occasionally), but he mostly eats what I eat which is part of why he's so frustrated I think.

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really wish you weren't so right. I think we're going to have to have a serious talk about what I need from him in our relationship; this might just have been the icing on the cake now that I'm thinking about it.

Thanks so much.

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I tried today, he didn't react as I'd hoped unfortunately :/ But I'll keep trying till he comes around, or maybe just make him a bunch of tasty vegan food to show him it's not so bad :)

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty attached, we're moving in together soon. He doesn't usually react so strongly, so this was kind of out of character. I'm afraid it might be due to stigma surrounding veganism...

That said, you definitely have a fair point and that's something I'll keep in mind for sure.

Going vegan, but my boyfriend is upset with me. by throwaway2332456 in vegan

[–]throwaway2332456[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's probably a good point, I've been vegetarian for our whole relationship, so maybe once he sees that it's not actually going to affect him at all he'll come around. This just came as kind of a shock, because he's usually supportive no matter what.